Why won't my parents listen?!

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I so depressed at the moment and have had the worst week ever after having to give back my rabbit due to allergies and everything in my life has gone wrong! I am struggling with college assignments and just feel so weighed down by it all that I find myself crying for no reason. :(

My piggies are on fleece and now my parents are having a go because bits of hay keeps blocking the washing machine. My dad says they will have to go back on to woodshavings and I have told him that when they were on that bedding it aggravated their skin conditions, wasn't absorbant and made them wheeze, cough and sneeze. He is having none of it and won't believe me either when I tell him the pigs won't eat out of a hay rack! My mum and dad said I could have a rabbit after Margaret if I could find one that I wasn't allergic to (mini rex type coat), now they're saying I can't have any more pets and critisize me when I've told them I want to extend the pigs space, saying that they don't need it, in the past my dad has also had a go at the way I keep my pigs saying that they need more space, yet when I do that he has a go?

I just can't cope at the moment, I would rather rehome my boys than put them back on to woodshavings!
 
Can you put them on newspaper and hay? this is what all my foster piggies have as there would be too much washing if they were on fleece.
 
Do you wash your fleece in a duvet cover, that helps keep the bits all together. I also get a stiff brush and sweep off the excess before placing it inside the duvet cover so it keeps to a minimum.
 
Then my parents would be complaining about the amount of hay we get through...or bits of it coming down the stairs. I try my best I really do.
 
Aww dont really know what to say with regards to your mum and dad could you leave it a little while let things calm down be really "helpfull" my mum was a lot more open to seeing things my way after a few cups of tea and me making a few dinners. Then drop it in to the confo how your piggies where really unhappy on shavings and the fleece is much better and that a way to get round the problem might be to put the fleece inside something before washed as already said. sending hugs
 
Thanks everyone, I'm just so stressed out at the moment. Bradley keeps getting bloat, my dad insists that I'm just fretting over nothing and there's no need to give him his fibreplex. I'm struggling at college, still missing my bun, my parents nag and whinge at me constantly and I'm really depressed because I have nothing whatsoever to look forward to. I miss my old friends who went to a different college than me, I miss going horse riding because I can't afford it anymore, I feel awful about giving Margaret back to her old owner, especially because her owner is moving house soon and needs to find a home for her. :(

Arghhh! Rant over.
 
what about getting a little "dust buster" type thing to pick to the majority of hay off the fleece before its washed and then the washing machine wont get clogged....ive got so start doing this!

On the rest, unfortunately parents and in charge (i always found this tough as my parents hated animals!)

Now i live with my own family, we are in rented so i cant do i want to do for my piggies, but i try still!

I hope you start to feel better.

Try to calmly offer compromises with your parents rather than arguing with them! good luck! x
 
give hay a good shake before it goes in the machine or put it inside an old duvet cover (check charity shop for one)or maybe soak fleece in a bucket first then put it in machine.
or just bed on newspaper and hay and made little sleeping area with hay
 
i use megazorb too.

I feel sorry for you hon, but, if its any consolation at all, we have all been there as we were all at home at one point, i can understand what your parents are saying about the washer as they arent cheap and they do clog up, times are hard eh?

try not to let things get on top of you, you will find a solution, you just may need to make a few changes.

x>>

ps. sorry you had to let your bunny go
 
GuineaPigg said:
Thanks everyone, I'm just so stressed out at the moment. Bradley keeps getting bloat, my dad insists that I'm just fretting over nothing and there's no need to give him his fibreplex. I'm struggling at college, still missing my bun, my parents nag and whinge at me constantly and I'm really depressed because I have nothing whatsoever to look forward to. I miss my old friends who went to a different college than me, I miss going horse riding because I can't afford it anymore, I feel awful about giving Margaret back to her old owner, especially because her owner is moving house soon and needs to find a home for her. :(

Arghhh! Rant over.
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Hey I'm sorry you are having such a hard time :( As for the hay and fleece, it is impossible to get it all off before going in the machine, bits get embedded in it and can't be brushed/shook out, so as someone before me said use a pillow case/duvet cover, that works for me so far :) Also where is your hay? I have mine in a completely sectioned off part of the cage, using correx as a wall and they have a wee bridge to get into it. Some hay does still get onto the fleece but its much much less of a problem than before.
Have you spoken to your parents about how you are feeling? When you are feeling really down I think pets are one of the best antidotes, so maybe if you explain they will give you a break a little and work with you on the fleece problem when they realise how important the piggies are to you :)
I hope you feel better soon xox
 
I've just spent the last 10 mins brushing and hoovering fleece which was a nightmare! Hoping that if I keep the hay on the fleece to a minimum they will let me have fleece as the bedding still. My mum and dad are against getting a rabbit though, not because I might be allergic to it but because of the washing mallethead
 
I put my boys washing in an old duvet cover works a treat! Another option is sometimes i hand wash vetbed, takes an hour out of my day but its worth it hehe, if you can get hold of the sink/bath/old plastic tub you can wash the fleece in that...sorry to hear about your parents they can be a pain in the butt :)
 
I want to put my girlies on vetbed/fleece, but my parents have vetoed that because of the washing element. I understand how you are feeling, but you must also consider the fact that clogged up washing machines are not a good thing, and can cost lots of pennies to fix!

I use megazorb for my girls; not sure how that would work for you, but it is really absorbant and relatively cheap. I have it on top of newspaper and puppy pads, which makes cleaning out easier.

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time at the moment - good luck with sorting things out...
 
I mentioned a few days back, that I use a rectangular microfibre mophead next to my piglet's litterbox, it catches a fair amount of hay off their paws before they step off onto the fleece. It was only 99p from the 99p store, and may help you? Just make sure you give it a good beating before it goes in the washing machine, or that will clog it up instead of the fleece! It is easier to shake off, though, as it is smaller. You may also want to get a litterbox with higher sides? Or as someone mentioned, used coroplast to seperate the two areas.
 
Maybe you could just use newspaper for most of the cage and put hay in the sleeping area/hidey house.

They really wouldn't mind just having newspaper in the living area I'm sure.

It's awful when you have to do what parents say and when they nag so much. My advice is just to try to remain calm all the time and just go along with what they say, don't argue, because it does seem to stop them nagging. I know it's relaly hard to not get upset when they're being unfair, but if you remain calm, they calm down hopefully.

I can understand that they don't want the washing machine to break, but they should try to be more understanding. But there are other things you can use besides shavings, even if it's just newspaper for most of the cage.

Maybe it's best not having a rabbit if you are allergic, but I'm so sorry you had to give yours back :( If you are going to get a rex rabbit, maybe try spending quite a lot of time with it before you get it, so you are sure you're not allergic first.

Just think, one day soon enough you will have your own place, just hold out for it :) I hope things with college get better soon. If you are still struggling and feeling depressed, maybe you could calmly try to explain it to your parents and say that you feel like they get upset with you a lot (but try not to sound like you're accusing them) or write it in a letter if it's too hard not to get upset telling them.
 
I work with rabbits at college quite a bit and the strange thing is that even the ones with really thick hair and that moult a lot I'm fine with, that's why when I got my bun I never thought I would be allergic to her. It's weird because out of my trio of pigs, one sometimes makes my hands itch, it's not all the time though, just every so often. My mum and dad haven't said anything since so hopefully the fleece will be staying, I've put a tray underneath the hayrack to catch any that falls out.
 
helenbun2005 said:
what about getting a little "dust buster" type thing to pick to the majority of hay off the fleece before its washed and then the washing machine wont get clogged....ive got so start doing this!

On the rest, unfortunately parents and in charge (i always found this tough as my parents hated animals!)

Now i live with my own family, we are in rented so i cant do i want to do for my piggies, but i try still!

I hope you start to feel better.

Try to calmly offer compromises with your parents rather than arguing with them! good luck! x
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I bought the hand held vax for £25.00 just before Christmas and find it a total godsend for 'hoovering' the fleece etc. Also brilliant for the bits of hay the piggies throw out onto the carpet rolleyes
Managed to buy a dirt buster today from a car boot in perfect condition...£1.50 :(|)
 
I must say perhaps I am amazingly blessed but my parents just seem to accept my pigs get "x amount of space", oh yes they need an outside run we will dedicate "x space".

They are really good, although occasionally they do have a little moan about them. The Vet Bed going in the washing machine, was a slight issue but was solved easily by me buying a horse bag which I put the Vet Bed in after brushing it, so they see me making the effort and the washing mchine doesn't get clogged result!

Unfortunately it is your parents house and it is there rules, and that is something we have to respect but it doesn't mean you can't have a rationale conversation with your parents. I'm sure you can get to a compromise that suits everyone!

Good Luck xx
 
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