Will it get easier?

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Sharon.Mackay

Sharon.Mackay

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Hi guys. Its been a month since Jasper passed and I still find it so painful. sometimes I see his face on a photo or remember something and i feel so sad.
If you have been through it, did you find that it gets easier to bear or will I always struggle to think of him? I have a lovely photo in a frame but cant bear to look at it for too long, I feel really silly :(
 
I know exactly how you feel, it does get easier over time but I think there will always be odd things that for now will upset you but hopefully in time will remind you of happier memories.

There's a song on my OH's ipod that reminds me of Nigel (is called shooting star or something like that, and we have a star named after him and it is also playing in a video we have of him being syringe fed) and it has me in floods without fail every time I hear it. There are things that remind me of all my other babies over the bridge too but for some reason I get most upset about Nigel.

I think it will get easier for you, it just takes time.
 
It will get easier over time; but it is not a quick process. Grieving takes its own time and you can't rush it! How much and how long you grieve depends on the depth of your bond and how you react to your loss. Occasionally something can bring it all up again, and that can be very upsetting, especially if it happens in a place/time you can't show your feelings.
You will know when your heart is finally at peace again; that is the time when you can hopefully cherish the time you have had with Jasper and feel blessed for having had him in your life, but that is still quite some time off for you.

Loss and the pain of loss gets never any easier, but you can learn over time to a certain extent how to cope better with your feelings and how to let go.

If you think that it can help you, there are free lines for pet bereavement out there; I think the Blue Cross runs one.
 
Awww sweetie, unofrtunatly time is the biggest healer. Lossing an animal is a grief os many people dont understand. We never forget the pain just lessens and the reminders arent so frequent as we make new associations. Unfortunatly there is little anyone can say or do in the mean time except tell you that it DOES get better.
I was lying in my ed last night remembering what it was like being in a relationship and thinking how muc better off I am now that its just me , my pouch and my piggies. And as sad as it is I thought to myself I dont need anything more as my best friends around me make me whole now. But i forced myself to remind myself animlas arent around for long an djust enjoy the time I have with them.
 
I know how you feel. I lost my little Marble last month and have felt sad ever since. Not a day goes past were I do not think of her and miss her. I have a hole in my heart since she has left. I am so sorry you are going through this awful pain too.
 
Aww, Sharon. really sorry that you are going through this pain. I know how you feel, we lost Putt earlier this year. They mean so much to us and there is never an easy way to deal with loss.

The most important thing in my life are family and piggies are a major part of family. When you lose someone or something close to you, life is never really the same again, you just have to find a new kind of normal.
It's been 3 months since we lost our special girl. It does get easier, I still get teary when I think about her, but I am starting to smile and feel at peace inside about her, I still miss her desperately, some days are worse than others, hearing a song that reminds me of her may set me off but the memories of the good times are starting to overtake the ones of that morning when she was so poorly.
Time is the biggest healer and unfortunately loss is the other side of love. You would never feel the love that you had for them if you didn't feel the emptiness when they leave.

You find mechanisms that work for you, it helps me to look at photo's of Putt, with Rach she tends to avoid them as they upset her too much. Hang on in there it does get eaiser I promise, if you ever need to chat we're all here for you. x
 
It does get easier honest but occasionally something will make you think of them.
Having had piggies a while Iv had a few pass, I loved them all and was terribly upset but there are two particular who I still find incredably hard to think about.
One of my first piggies Tody who passed away over 4 years ago now and Kye who passed about 18 months ago. I still tear up whenever something reminds me of them.

I'm piggyless at the moment and I'm finding it difficult. I'm hoping once we come back from honeymoon we might be able to find space to have a pair again.
 
'Time is the biggest healer and unfortunately loss is the other side of love. You would never feel the love that you had for them if you didn't feel the emptiness when they leave'


So true, thanks. I cherish my boys even more now (if that's possible) because I have had a stark reminder they won't be here for ever.

Thank you everyone. Here is my FAVE photo of Jasper, I have now put it where I can see it in a lovely butterfly frame (butterflies are special to me, long story I may tell you about one day!) following your advice I feel it's important for me to see him everyday.


Hello mammy, what'you doing up there. Can I come see?


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Bless, that photo bought a tear to my eye. Hope you ok x
 
Aww if you always remember him, and talk with those who know him then he hasn't really gone, I truly believe he lives on in your hearts, and your actions. I believe he's looking down at you from rainbow bridge and wishes he could give you a cuddle to help make the temporary separation easier.

I still miss my bun Sherlock, and whenever I spend lots of time thinking of him I still end up crying, whenever I do I remember that I would have have the tears now then never have spent those cherished moments with him.
 
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