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Ellie,
Reading this thread brought tears to my eyes. I can't imagine how much hurt you're feeling. I don't know exactly what's going on but, I have seen how people are betrayed. :'(

The way I was treated really hurt and I had no reason to trust anyone on the only other forum I joined. What made me sick was the way the moderators and members treated each other. That's why I feel so afraid to open up. I understand completely how you van feel like giving up.

Ellie, after I saw the hatefulness, I wanted to take my guinea pigs to the rescue. I felt like they would be better off because I felt like there was no place for me to turn for help.

My guinea pigs didn't go to the rescue today because of YOU. This forum has given me enough hope to hang in there and not give up just yet. If you give up, I don't see how I'll be able to make it. This is the only place I feel has enough love to help me learn what I need to give these little ones a great home.

Your efforts and hard work are making a difference. There will be more new people that will come because they sure aren't going to try where the aren't welcome.

Please don't give up? I pray you're heart will heal.

Sending my love,
FBS
 
I am so sorry to read this. I dont have a high post count but been a member for some time. I'm finding there is quite alot of bitchiness going on and lots of snapping right now. I love this forum and dont belong to another guinea one. Try not to get yourself down about the situation. Your loyal members will stay and those that chose to go to another forum will soon return, as the grass is not always greener the otherside of the fence.

xx
 
hey i love this forum, i'm on every day, you won't lose me that's for sure. :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten:
 
FlyinButtSwat said:
Ellie,
Reading this thread brought tears to my eyes. I can't imagine how much hurt you're feeling. I don't know exactly what's going on but, I have seen how people are betrayed. :'(

The way I was treated really hurt and I had no reason to trust anyone on the only other forum I joined. What made me sick was the way the moderators and members treated each other. That's why I feel so afraid to open up. I understand completely how you van feel like giving up.

Ellie, after I saw the hatefulness, I wanted to take my guinea pigs to the rescue. I felt like they would be better off because I felt like there was no place for me to turn for help.

My guinea pigs didn't go to the rescue today because of YOU. This forum has given me enough hope to hang in there and not give up just yet. If you give up, I don't see how I'll be able to make it. This is the only place I feel has enough love to help me learn what I need to give these little ones a great home.

Your efforts and hard work are making a difference. There will be more new people that will come because they sure aren't going to try where the aren't welcome.

Please don't give up? I pray you're heart will heal.

Sending my love,
FBS
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FBS, thank you very much. I feel awful at the moment - 4 hours sleep over all of this...

I am glad you have decided that you like this forum - When I said to you over PM that this is a nice friendly forum, I meant it!

Hopefully you will soon realise that this is a nice place to be as it generally is... If you have any problems, please still feel free to message me!
 
BEATRICE said:
I am so sorry to read this. I dont have a high post count but been a member for some time. I'm finding there is quite alot of bitchiness going on and lots of snapping right now. I love this forum and dont belong to another guinea one. Try not to get yourself down about the situation. Your loyal members will stay and those that chose to go to another forum will soon return, as the grass is not always greener the otherside of the fence.

xx
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hey i love this forum, i'm on every day, you won't lose me that's for sure. :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten:
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Thanks! :) - I'm just so hurt by all of this - especially as it was done behind my back. I found this out through an email - http://www.theguineapigforum.co.uk/index.php?topic=7436.0 - Some people haven't read this message because when some members get email notifications and hit reply, the message gets sent straight to my email. This is because when a pm notification has been sent to someone via email, it sends it from my [email protected] account. If you just press reply on email, the email gets sent straight to my account - not the nicest of ways to find all of this out.
 
I am disgusted by the behaviour of certain forum members....

And I notice those who have been caught out are now suspiciously quiet on the subject. Says an awful lot to me.

I just hope now that people can see the forum for the happy, friendly place it can be. I also think that a lot of the problems with people feeling ganged up on, left out or patronised may stop now certain members have somewhere else to play their silly games....
 
Hi Ellie, I agree with much of what's been said above. I received a pm inviting me to join and I have as I currently belong to a scary amount of forums however I don't spend enough time on here to see what's been happening, I have no idea what bitchiness has been going on or who between etc etc. I do feel that any collection of women will result in bitchiness unfortunately, it does in real life and it follows onto forums. My main forum that I almost live on is RU and I've seen offshoot forums from there due to disagreements between members. I think like RU you have grown your membership almost to the level where you do need moderators on 24/7 - you possibly need to recruit several more so that someone is always on here. RU do this and the admin there get criticised for pulling or locking too many threads but if they didn't it descends into a bitchfest or attack. Don't worry about people leaving this forum, people come and people go. I do agree though that using pms to recruit isn't on - on RU you can't even link to other forums except in your signature which I think is a good idea.

Kathryn x
 
GuineaPigs-4-eva said:
this is one of the best forums i have been on!!!1 :)
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Thanks :)  I am glad that you like it!

kayjay said:
Hi Ellie, I agree with much of what's been said above.  I received a pm inviting me to join and I have as I currently belong to a scary amount of forums however I don't spend enough time on here to see what's been happening, I have no idea what bitchiness has been going on or who between etc etc.  I do feel that any collection of women will result in bitchiness unfortunately, it does in real life and it follows onto forums.  My main forum that I almost live on is RU and I've seen offshoot forums from there due to disagreements between members.  I think like RU you have grown your membership almost to the level where you do need moderators on 24/7 - you possibly need to recruit several more so that someone is always on here.  RU do this and the admin there get criticised for pulling or locking too many threads but if they didn't it descends into a bitchfest or attack.  Don't worry about people leaving this forum, people come and people go.  I do agree though that using pms to recruit isn't on - on RU you can't even link to other forums except in your signature which I think is a good idea.

Kathryn x
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I completely agree with you Kathryn.  I have had a hectic past couple of weeks getting all final pieces of college work in... now I have finished, I am able to spend more time on the forum and will be looking at recruiting more moderators.  This forum does not allow you to link to other forums via the boards of PM - We have a Member's Websites board here available to those who have made over 250 posts however, this is only for websites - not forums.

I can promise you all that this forum is going to be running so much better.  We are currently looking into new ways to ensure that this forum continues to grow in a positive way...
 
I haven't noticed any other forum advertising but I know how it feels hunny, happened to me.

Have you thought of afiliting with other forums Ellie?
Might help stop the arrovation, but then again I dunno, it's upto you.
 
This is by far the best forum for friendliness, information and support. I do glance over other forums on a daily basis, but this is the only one saved in "my favourites". Don't worry about the other fly- bys just know that this is the best forum for information and help and the RIGHT WAY TO KEEP A GUINEA PIG! This is the only forum that actually cares about the PIGGIES!

It will all be ok!

Sue x
 
I'm staying here O0

I have been on other piggy forums but this is the best by far Ellie :). The previous forums I have been on, the members don't really like eachother alot, and I got banned from one for bad grammar 98). But I love this one :smitten: Because apart from a few members, this place feels like we have a little family going on =]

I love you guys. Keep the forum running! :smitten:

(also if I can help in any way, i will =]) x
 
I'm new to this forum, but i think its great - and i havent and dont see any need to join any others xx
 
Hi Ellie,

Just saw this thread.

I haven't been around the forum so much lately for two reasons:

1.) Having had to separate Tom and Jez, we now have absolutely, positively, no more space for any more pigs......so I don't want to be tempted (and yes I know I could avoid any Rescue or Re-Homing posts, but it's so tempting to take a peek when I see the words 'Boar needs a loving home' !)

2.) I'm really, really busy at home with other things right now.

This is the only piggy forum I belong to, and I would not consider joining another one - although I do browse other piggy websites for specific info if I need it.

I really hope this forum keeps going - even though I don't visit it so much at the moment - because I really like it.

:smitten: Sammyroo ('n Tom 'n Jez  ;D)
 
i wont be leaving that for sure!this forum is brillant because it helpful ,everyone helps each other out,which is why your the only forum ,is there a section for looking after chickens
 
I really hope this forum keeps going, I might not post very much but that's because we've only had guinea pigs for 6 months and I don't really feel qualified to give any advice yet. I try and help with other things though if I can :)

I love looking on here for advice, and I feel like I know so much already - I even helped someone I know with what the problem might be from what I've read on here O0

I have noticed that people are getting upset on here lately and it's such a change from when I first joined. Lets hope it gets back to how it used to be, and soon :)
 
if i ever sense a thread is getting snydy i stay away from it, don't wanna be pulled into it.
 
I wont be leaving thats for sure but i have joined the other one but as i see it as an extention of this one with friends I enjoy chatting with, I cannot see this should be a problem, I only belong to 3 forums all to do with piggys ,
I am sorry if this has hurt anybody I'm sure it was not ment to be hurtful, and I dont agree that it might be quiter friendlier now they've gone, they have not gone and certainly not people who start problems. no one has left the forum as far as I know, I've been on here from the begining and often play peacemaker when the mods are not on when things get naughty, and love TGPF and think Ellie is amazing what she done with it and often tell her , I think maybe it got to the point that some of us were weary of posting as it could be considered argumentative especially by the younger ones ,
the other fourm who shall remian nameless ended with massive problems, you know who I mean, but this one is made of stronger stuff and stronger personalitys and loyal friends of which I consider myself to be one , just becasue i joined another forum does not make me disloyal and consider I'm lucky having 2 places to chat on , Ellie hun sent you a pm , but please dont get upset over this it was def not ment to hurt you, those friends you feel are disloyal are not they are just doing what you did in jan 06 this is TGPF and always will be ,
 
Michelle, its not about another forum being made - its the fact it was done behind my back and that people were using this forum to advertise their new forum telling people that this one is too bitchy.
 
I just don't think anyone was intending to tell Ellie about this though. If it hadn't been for the fact that an email notification of a PM was replied to then Ellie wouldn't have been aware of what was going on. It makes it look underhand and sneaky. I wasn't invited to join the other forum although it appears many other members of this forum were asked. Why the secrecy?
 
squeakypigs said:
Michelle, its not about another forum being made - its the fact it was done behind my back and that people were using this forum to advertise their new forum telling people that this one is too bitchy.
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I voiced concerns before about the bitchiness on this forum, so hopefully now the bitchiness will transfer to the new forum.
I really wouldn't worry about it Ellie, though I understand your hurt. New members join here every day and the loyal ones will stay. I for one would not go anwhere else. I felt that a certain group of members on here were making the forum an unwelcome place for many others as they were all friends...posts became personal, they talked about personal things that others couldnt join in with because they were not part of that group of friends etc

This forum is the best and will remain so. Chin up sweetie. xx
 
furryfriends said:
I just don't think anyone was intending to tell Ellie about this though. If it hadn't been for the fact that an email notification of a PM was replied to then Ellie wouldn't have been aware of what was going on. It makes it look underhand and sneaky. I wasn't invited to join the other forum although it appears many other members of this forum were asked. Why the secrecy?
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I was not invited either ;D
 
lavenderjade said:
furryfriends said:
I just don't think anyone was intending to tell Ellie about this though. If it hadn't been for the fact that an email notification of a PM was replied to then Ellie wouldn't have been aware of what was going on. It makes it look underhand and sneaky. I wasn't invited to join the other forum although it appears many other members of this forum were asked. Why the secrecy?
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I was not invited either ;D
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;D Well I guess as Ellie's mum I wasn't going to be asked! ;D
 
lavenderjade said:
furryfriends said:
I just don't think anyone was intending to tell Ellie about this though. If it hadn't been for the fact that an email notification of a PM was replied to then Ellie wouldn't have been aware of what was going on. It makes it look underhand and sneaky. I wasn't invited to join the other forum although it appears many other members of this forum were asked. Why the secrecy?
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I was not invited either ;D
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Me neither!
 
squeakypigs said:
Michelle, its not about another forum being made - its the fact it was done behind my back and that people were using this forum to advertise their new forum telling people that this one is too bitchy.
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On a scale of things I don't find this "bitchy" at all, bit "clicky" at times but far from bitchy, people sometimes get a little "overheated" but as for the other forums around this is by far the most mild, easy mannered, gentle one and I think Lavenderjades right, the loyal ones will stay and use it for what its meant for and the others will drift away to other places leaving your nice mild mannered forum once again!
 
Good grief! I haven't been on for a while, what on earth is going on?!

BTW Ellie, I haven't been invited to join another forum and I wouldn't because I like this one and I just don't have the time to go on another one! the only one I saw advertised was a hamster one which I did look at as I have a hammy...

Please don't worry or lose sleep - its wrong that they have slated this forum as "bitchy" - I haven't seen any of the so-called bitchiness but at the end of the day if people want to set up another one then just let them go... their loss.

x

PS My pigs are very glad of all the help and advise we've received on here!
 
I am waiting for an explanation of those who have done this. If I don't receive one by 1pm, I will be banning these members as I not going to have people use this forum to slag this forum off and promote their own. I would usually ban people straight away if they done this but as this has been done by people who I classed as friends, I think its fair I give them the chance to explain. I am on MSN...
 
I was online when all this started and i've been away cause of the time diff stuff, so dinner etc.....

I'm so so disappointed that nothing was resolved with out hurt you Ellie and all the others :'( :'( :'( :'( I still don't feel it was meant to be deliberate to you love :-\

This is a lovely forum and i've said so to you all sooo many times, i don't want to leave here either.
 
But why couldn't they tell Ellie what they were thinking of doing? It was done behind her back. I didn't receive the PM that so many people got cos it would have been obvious I would have told her.

This isn't about a new forum being formed. After all a lot of people go on various forums, its about the underhand way it was done and the method used to promote their forum.

I just think its so sad that it has come to this. :(
 
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