Do You Ever Wonder If Your Standards Are Too High?

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Am I mental? Or is it that other people just don't regard the welfare of guinea pigs as much as I think the majority of the forum do?

I've had a crappy day dealing with something I predicted and now has come home to roost and I'm mopping up the fall-out from that...and PEOPLE....jesus what's wrong with people?

I appreciate this post will not make any sense...but do you ever wonder if your standards are too high?

I'm beginning to doubt myself...need re-assurance...I feel proper crap tonight.
 
I think people just don't do their research, or presume keeping guinea pigs will be really easy. Which it is really, as long as you've done the research!

I wonder the same thing myself. It isn't just you don't worry.
 
I keep my boys as well as I can to ensure that they have the best lives possible. I won't appologise for looking after them the way I do, as I do it for them.

Sorry you've had a bad day. Unfortunately there are some people in the world who just can't be reasoned with.
 
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Thank you both...you are right, some people can't be reasoned with.
I feel so low right now because someone has made me feel so bad for wanting the best...and they are turning the tables on me. I can't remember the last time I've wanted to sit down and cry...oh yeah that will be when my mum died in April...some people are just so heartless.
 
Yeah I know. I often get the comments of, 'They're only guinea pigs' when I explain how I look after them. Nobody would think to say that about a dog or other common pet. It really frustrates me!

Don't feel down about it (easier said than done I know). At least you know you're giving your guineas the best possible care. Thats all that matters!
 
I sometimes wonder if mine are and then think no as that is what any decent human being would do. Hope you're ok, some people don't deserve their animals.
 
Thanks again guys, I think I just needed re-assurance. I really dislike people who are nasty and hit out and then make me feel bad for it. I know that it's only me that can affect how I feel. But nevertheless, I am feeling utterly rubbish and a relationship is tarnished and I fear forever...oh well if they good people they would understand their irrational behaviour.
Need another glass of wine.
 
ayemee said:
Yeah I know. I often get the comments of, 'They're only guinea pigs' when I explain how I look after them. Nobody would think to say that about a dog or other common pet. It really frustrates me.
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Thats true,and been said to me quite a few times .It drives me mad
 
My colleagues were asking if I got another Piggie for Rory and said no, I would need to get an older girl from a rescue. The look one give me like 'guinea pigs in a rescue?' He was being right snide.
He doesn't seem to understand every animal can be rescued, I never got a chance to voice that... But he's just a dimler, in the past he said he would put my animals to sleep for me (peeved) and how much I spent on vet bills he's a arrogant :rant:

He even said his girlfriend got a hamster to keep her company while on maternity leave and he told her if she didn't get rid he would throw it off the balcony!
Nothing wrong with high standard IMHO
 
Why would anyone keep animals to not give them the best possible love and attention? (I know some aren't like that unfortunately) but yes it is beyond me. I have animals for companionship and to have something to love and care for and to enjoy the feelings I get when a simple piggie lick to the hand or the snuggles my dog gives me when I return home or the simple hop up on my shoulder from nervous chins. Makes the world a very better place for me.
 
I totally sympathise with you. Apart from the people on the forum, most people I come across seem to really neglect their guinea pigs. People are amazed at the basic things I do for mine and show no interest in their well being. I have tried to advise others who just take offence. I do not feel our standards are too high but theirs are too low. I am so sorry you are feeling so low after just trying to help. Hugs to you.
 
Jess said:
My colleagues were asking if I got another Piggie for Rory and said no, I would need to get an older girl from a rescue. The look one give me like 'guinea pigs in a rescue?' He was being right snide.
He doesn't seem to understand every animal can be rescued, I never got a chance to voice that... But he's just a dimler, in the past he said he would put my animals to sleep for me (peeved) and how much I spent on vet bills he's a arrogant :rant:

He even said his girlfriend got a hamster to keep her company while on maternity leave and he told her if she didn't get rid he would throw it off the balcony!
Nothing wrong with high standard IMHO
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That's shocking...I wonder how he'd feel if he was considered to be thrown off the roof because he as surplus to requirements!

GloriousGuineaGirl said:
Why would anyone keep animals to not give them the best possible love and attention? (I know some aren't like that unfortunately) but yes it is beyond me. I have animals for companionship and to have something to love and care for and to enjoy the feelings I get when a simple piggie lick to the hand or the snuggles my dog gives me when I return home or the simple hop up on my shoulder from nervous chins. Makes the world a very better place for me.
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I think you've hit the nail on the head for me...that's exactly it. I don't have kids, and whilst pigs are no substitute, they give me something I couldn't get - you're right it's the simple things.

piggyfan said:
I totally sympathise with you. Apart from the people on the forum, most people I come across seem to really neglect their guinea pigs. People are amazed at the basic things I do for mine and show no interest in their well being. I have tried to advise others who just take offence. I do not feel our standards are too high but theirs are too low. I am so sorry you are feeling so low after just trying to help. Hugs to you.
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Thank you sweetie, so very kind. Forgive me for sitting on the thread, I just needed some reassurance and hugs from my forum pals. I knew I could rely on you guys to make me feel better...it's starting to work. What a super bunch you are...x
 
It's hard when you feel you're being persecuted for doing the right things. Just hold true to yourself and your principles. Then you'll never feel you've let yourself (and piggies) down. Hugs xx
 
Thank you sweetie, so very kind. Forgive me for sitting on the thread, I just needed some reassurance and hugs from my forum pals. I knew I could rely on you guys to make me feel better...it's starting to work. What a super bunch you are...x
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Thank you the feeling is mutual :)
 
Unfortunately some people really should take a look in the mirror before they start judging everyone else, as it's so hard to ignore and forget thoughtless comments. I can't add much more to what has already been said, but I hope tomorrow is a better day for you!
 
Hi lil, I completely understand how you feel. I took on my guineas without knowing how to care for them. As I love my animals I did a lot of research on the net, this is how I found the forum. The way I treat my pigs is different to their previous owner but I known that I am doing right by them and their welfare is paramount. You know your right, sod the idiots and enjoy another glass of wine.
 
I totally sympathise - it makes me so angry when people talk down to you for having animals that you devote yourself to looking after, esoecially when it's 'joking' about horrible things they would do if they were in my place. Hold your head high and know that you are a much better person for showing compassion for other creatures xx
 
I get told that my standards are too high when it comes to the pigs. I say there's no such thing! You want the best possible life for your pets, after all they are apart of the family too and home wouldn't be home without happy squeaks in the background.
Big hugs!
 
I'm always thinking my standards are too high.. And too me, that is perfect!

It means I want the best for my boys and I certainly do not think it's wrong to want the best for your piggies! (Or any animal of course!)

You just have too ignore the people who tell you your standards are too high, if they mean it in a bad way!

I would take it as a compliment, even if they don't mean it that way! It means you want your piggies too have the perfect piggie life! :D
 
I think too high standards are impossible, but too low standards are quite probable with some people! Some people just lack common sense and the ability to find out the basic care for an animal.
 
I don't have children and my piggies most definitely are a substitute and a damn fine one at that! :nod: No one at work (bless them) would ever dare say anything negative about piggies to me because they know how important they are. In fact quite a few folk at work have piggies and I have been able to improve some of their little lives by passing on information I have learnt on here. But I totally understand what you mean. One girl at work told me she doesn't like her piggies too much because they don't interact with her - could that be because she only sees them when she goes out to feed them or clean them out! Doesn't seem to understand that if you don't spend time with then they won't her used to you! Makes me so irritated! :mal:
 
You can never have too high standards, it's for piggies after all.

Some people don't have high enough standards, meaning they really don't understand or care about piggies at all. There is a difference from ok care, and high standards, like us people on the forum!
Once my cousin (10) came over to my house from Oxford, I showed her my piggies, let her stroke them pick them up, showed her all (well, some of) the pigs' equipment. Then she said, just as I took a chair back to look proud at my pigs, she said ''I'm going to go inside now''.
She clearly showed no interest in them, and these are the sort of people who wouldn't care as well for piggies who on this forum have 'high standards'. Once she looked after a friend's rabbit for a week, few days in from when she went with her mum to feed it, she lost interest and didn't bother to see it. Left her mum to do it all, she was only 9, but she should've still seen it, she even asked for a rabbit the first day, then her parents said no, as soon as she didn't bother about the rabbit after. The higher the standards, the better care for your pigs, and that's all that matters!

Sorry, about that. Bit of a speech!
 
katie-elizabeth said:
Unfortunately some people really should take a look in the mirror before they start judging everyone else, as it's so hard to ignore and forget thoughtless comments. I can't add much more to what has already been said, but I hope tomorrow is a better day for you!
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You are absolutely right, shouting out and blaming other people for their problems shows irrational behaviour and frankly, I think they have a screw loose.
 
Chief Guinea Pig said:
You can never have too high standards, it's for piggies after all.

Some people don't have high enough standards, meaning they really don't understand or care about piggies at all. There is a difference from ok care, and high standards, like us people on the forum!
Once my cousin (10) came over to my house from Oxford, I showed her my piggies, let her stroke them pick them up, showed her all (well, some of) the pigs' equipment. Then she said, just as I took a chair back to look proud at my pigs, she said ''I'm going to go inside now''.
She clearly showed no interest in them, and these are the sort of people who wouldn't care as well for piggies who on this forum have 'high standards'. Once she looked after a friend's rabbit for a week, few days in from when she went with her mum to feed it, she lost interest and didn't bother to see it. Left her mum to do it all, she was only 9, but she should've still seen it, she even asked for a rabbit the first day, then her parents said no, as soon as she didn't bother about the rabbit after. The higher the standards, the better care for your pigs, and that's all that matters!

Sorry, about that. Bit of a speech!
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That's just it isn't it. Some people are very much into the throw away society and I guess because they can throw away, they treat them in a way that isn't high enough and nor they think "aww bless, she just loves her animals and wants to care for them"...
 
Thanks guys, I'm feeling much better thank you. I know I'm right in my heart and head, I've rationalised it in my head with all your kind words and understanding....love this forum...you guys & gals are great. There's no point in my spending anymore brain space on this wasted individual. Today is a new day, yes a busy one...erm hemm...whilst I'm at work! But I'm just getting on with it, knocking it off the list and moving on...
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Unfortunately some people don't pets at all and even some cat and dog owners who adore their pets will still have a completely different attitude towards small furries and regard them as 2nd class pets.

Slaves who go the extra mile with piggies get so much more out of our piggies than those that just leave them in a hutch in the garden. Keep doing what you are doing Lil and sod everyone else. Your a lovely person and a great piggy mum.

Some of my friends really don't understand my love for our piggies and in the past have said some things which I have found hurtful. I responded with you don't have to understand why I feel like I do about my pigs, but as a friend I expect you to understand that they are hugely important to me and not be such a knob about it.

Have a hug x
 
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