I'm having a rant!

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Niki

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About my OH's daugher.
She's really annoyed me! She is almost 19 and went out (with dad) to get a stick insect last Tuesday and came back with a bunny, before she went she'd said she didn't want a rabbit!

Well so far, she's fed him on Tuesday (the day she got him) and got him out for 5mins on Wednesday-that's it!
It's me who's been checking on him, feeding, watering etc (because she's out all day doing whatever) and me that puts him in the piggies run when they're safely away. It's like she has no concept of his needs eventhough she has seen the amount of time i spend preparing veg, cleaning, playing etc with the piggies.

Today she goes to get him from the piggies run and all we could hear was her shouting, "will you come here"
Now the floor of the run is bark chips and isn't muddy so why the hell she couldn't get on her knees and talk to him gently i don't know, which is exactly what i did and hey presto 2 minutes later he was in my arms.
I can see me being the new adoptee!
I'm not really a bunny person and already feel sorry for him being on his own, tho' i know that's best for him and i certainly can't just leave him in his hutch at the bottom of the garden- another lonely, abandoned bunny!
Time will tell i suppose.
My rant is over! ;D
 
Hope you feel a bit better now :)

Can OH not have a word with her? she sounds like a daddys girl so may listen to him?
 
I do Bev, cos obviously i can't rant too much with the OH ::)

Apparantly before he bought him he did say to her how she had to look after him, feed him, clean him out etc
And of course it was all "of course i will"

I gave her the benefit of the doubt as she's older but honestly didn't think the novely would wear off after only 1 day!

The OH is a pushover (and don't she know it) so would rather look after the bunny himself than "have a word" because it just causes war! ::)

I'm ever thankful that i can't have kids, i don't think i'd have the patience that i have for my fur-kids! ;)
 
Fur-kids or real-kids
Fur-kids or real-kids
Fur-kids or real-kids

FUR-KIDS!
 
I will third, forth and fifth that anyday

FUR KIDS RULE

karen ;D ;D ;D ;D
 
:'( :'( poor bunny

I wish people would think more carefully before taking on a pet. The problem is that bunnies and piggies are so readily available in pet shops you can even pick one up when you're buying plants for your garden!

She sounds very immature to me for 19

Kathryn xx

ps I have one real-kid who's fantastic and gives me more pleasure and fun than any fur-kid could, can't stand others though ;D
 
I have 3 real-kids (girls!) some times I like them :) some times I dont :( but I will always love them! :-*
 
wow, sounds real immature for 19, sorry you have to put up with it and take care of the rabbit.

Just think of it this way, at least someone is taking care of the rabbit and giving it attention. Good luck!
 
Niki said:
Apparantly before he bought him he did say to her how she had to look after him, feed him, clean him out etc
And of course it was all "of course i will"

She's 19 and daddy is still buying for her?! :D

When I was 16 anything that I wanted, I had to save up and buy for myself. Ok, I'm a daddy's girl too (I'm 25), but he never went as far as spoiling me rotten. It was more the attention that I got and the chance of getting away with things.

I'm sorry, but like the others, she sounds really immature. I think it's time that daddy told her to grow up! :)
 
Very sad for the rabbit and annoying for you. Perhaps it should be found a new home. Whether your daughter she likes it or not. My 13 year old son has budgies but hasn't doesn't botherd much with them recently. Thinking of letting them go and live with nanny who likes them a lot and looks after them when we are away. He realises this might be the best for the budgies.
 
It's a shame she's not looking after the rabbit as she should, I agree with the others that perhaps you could find him a new home or see if the shop will have him back perhaps?

Either that or she needs to be sat down and talked to about responsibility, rabbits live for a very long time! Just like all pets, they aren't passing phase you can put in a cupboard when you get bored :(
 
I'm 20 (only turned 20 this year), so not much older than her, but I'm sorry to say that to me she sounds really irresponsible (no offence to your oh's daughter), but I do agree, why doesn't your OH have a chat with her about responsibility, and how an animal is for life, etc?
 
You'd think at 19 she would know better. My mother was married with a 3 year old at her age. I'm just glad you're there to look after the poor creature. :(
 
Well peeps, i wish i could write all your replies down to "show" that it's not "just me being funny"

Today, she's uncovered the hutch, shouted at the dogs 'cos obviously they want to see what's in there and then went out! Job obviously done!?

The food the pet shop said he was eating, he isn't, he's selectively feeding so i'm gradually introducing him to P@H junior bunny nuggets, which i'm happy to say he loves.

He's been out again in the piggie run for a 2 hour run around and when she comes home she'll be having a talking to because he needs cleaning out tomorrow and that's one job i certainly am NOT doing, not when i have my own hutches to do.

We shall see what happens and thanks again, oh and no offence taken from anyone's comments, i wholeheartedly agree with everyone, she is immature (when it suits) but i would say that, me being the "wicked step-mother" ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar
 
kellyandpiggies said:
LOL :)

She had animals before?

Yep, a hamster (when she lived with her mum) Apparantly she looked after him, til he died of old age, we then bought her a hamster but she only visited weekends then and when he bit her she didn't want to know so we re-homed him with a friend.
I've shown my OH all the messages on here and he was in total agreement :o :o and added that at 19 he shouldn't have to tell her how to look after the bunny! Ho hum the joys of parenting ;) ;D
 
My mom's friend is going through the same thing her daughter who is 23 and got a dog that she doesn't want to care for now. When I was younger my mom let me have hamsters but I could only have them if I I took care of them. Well I got to keep them and she complimented me when she was talking to her friend saying she doesn't have to worry about my pets being cared for. Good luck with her it sounds like she got her way one too many times.
 
kellyandpiggies said:
How are things now, Niki? :)

Improved! She cleaned him out last week with not much back-chat. She has fed him and let him out for a run, not every day but she has improved - i still check on him and let him out.
Me & the OH decided today as my piggies new hutches are huge they no longer need the run so we're moving his hutch into the gazebo - he can then run around and can't be pestered by the dogs.
It'll be a lot better for him as it's protected from the weather & i can't really see her cleaning him out when it's pouring down - she will have no excuse once he's in there!
He still has no name tho ::) She did say Neo earlier today then said "oh but i might like something else later and i can't change it!" So i have no clue! I call him Dexter (Dexy) and because i spend so much time with him, he's becoming hand-tame - i love him to bits!
 
I realise the rants probably over now :) but just had to reply to this as I can't believe a 19 year old can be like that around one little rabbit! My younger brother is 14 and he helps my mum out with about 30 quails, an avery full of birds and 2 gps (and a baby gp now), about 15 rabbits, a goose, 4 silkies, a bantam, cat, tropical fish and 3 dogs! Every night he helps feed/water them/collect eggs and every weekend cleaning and checking - no complaints and he goes to school 6 days a week :o

I think someone needs to think about how they'd feel being left in a dirty hutch, especially in this weather....
 
Jenni75 said:
I realise the rants probably over now :) but just had to reply to this as I can't believe a 19 year old can be like that around one little rabbit! My younger brother is 14 and he helps my mum out with about 30 quails, an avery full of birds and 2 gps (and a baby gp now), about 15 rabbits, a goose, 4 silkies, a bantam, cat, tropical fish and 3 dogs! Every night he helps feed/water them/collect eggs and every weekend cleaning and checking - no complaints and he goes to school 6 days a week :o

I think someone needs to think about how they'd feel being left in a dirty hutch, especially in this weather....

I personally only think she got a rabbit because (to use her words) "i want a pet because niki's got guinea pigs" Touch of the green eyes i think ::)
However, Niki looks after ALL her "kids." Hmmm mebbe that's it - she thought i'd look after bunny as well!
Bunny is now a birthday present (long story) because she'll be 19 on 27th.

Btw Jenni - you're brother obviously has a great love of animals. I hope, when he hits his late teens he doesn't change, he sounds lovely :)
 
Ah I see! Hope green eyed monster looks after bunny well now - bunnies can become nasty little things if they don't get enough attention and love....I learnt that one quickly myself when I was very young, those back legs can scratch ribbons off you!

It's my mums fault ;D she is a BIG animal lover and so both myself and my youngest brother adore our animals and have as many as possible! Well, he's going through his teenager from hell stage at the moment but as he's still looking after all the zoo and his own dog I think he'll never change on that :)
 
I know exactly how you feel. I too also have a nineteen year old. and
she decided she wanted to get her own guinea pig. Which she did.
And have a guess who cleans it buys the food hay etc. And because i have 6 off my own
she thinks she doesn't have to contribute towards it . kids they get worse as they get older
I hope you can sort it with her.For the rabbits sake
 
Jenni75 said:
bunnies can become nasty little things if they don't get enough attention and love....I learnt that one quickly myself when I was very young, those back legs can scratch ribbons off you!

Yep! Each time she picks him up she says he's scratched her or he's kicked her so i clipped his nails.
Now you've said that mebbe it had nothing to do with his nails because I don't get kicked or scratched, he nuzzles into my neck when i have hold of him. ;D ;D
I feel like giving her the proverbial kick up the *** because we seem to have gone backwards, she's looked at him in the run (i took him out there as i do everyday) and that's it.
I can't swear but i really do feel like it today.
 
sweep said:
I know exactly how you feel. I too also have a nineteen year old. and
she decided she wanted to get her own guinea pig. Which she did.
And have a guess who cleans it buys the food hay etc. And because i have 6 off my own
she thinks she doesn't have to contribute towards it . kids they get worse as they get older
I hope you can sort it with her.For the rabbits sake

It's just sooo not spluddy funny! I mean 19 (well almost) what do you have to do to instil some sort of .......... i don't know common sense! Pets can't feed or clean themselves out!
Oh i'll have to go calm down 'cos she's "proper done my head in today" >:(
 
Not all 19 year olds are bad :D You just need to ask my mum about how wonderful I am! LOL
 
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