I've Just Lost My Alex

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I'm so heartbroken and in tears, such and awful thing to go through he's my first rainbow piggy and I really feel like I've let him down. I know only you truly understand how much these cute little piggies mean to us.
RIP by beautiful boy I loved you so much , popcorn free my Alex until we meet again x

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I am so sorry, I am sure you didn't let him down at all. You couldn't have because you love him. It is always hard to lose a pet, but the first ones are so special. Alex was gorgeous. I am really sorry mate. Huge hugs, he had a wonderful life with you x x

Sleep well handsome boy

RIP Alex
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Thank you @sport_billy , it's so painful I can not stop crying he's helped me though my horrid hospital trips (lots of hugs once I was home) plus my surgeries etc and when I've felt awful due to life in general I've scooped him up for that fuzzy hug that always makes me feel better.
That last photo which included me isn't the best but I added it because that was are thing our cuddle where he would every now and then lick my face as if he was giving me a little kiss, bless his heart.
Before the vet took him from my arms at lunchtime today, I had checked and asked that I was doing the right thing, he was in pain and his out look wasn't good long term his bloods showed either a ragging infection or cancer I am so cross with myself for not having another X-ray done today to check the stone was still there which we think it was but wasn't sure maybe more antibiotics would of helped but it's all to late now. he was his happy self before I took him still eating and drinking fine.... she did confirmed he was in pain and he had already had his morning pain relief. I feel like I have honestly let him down maybe he was on the mend for now and he had passed that stone (I was always checked for it in his cage) and I've just put him to sleep. I'm so confused
 
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Thank you @sport_billy , it's so painful I can not stop crying he's helped me though my horrid hospital trips (lots of hugs once I was home) plus my surgeries etc and when I've felt awful due to life in general I've scooped him up for that fuzzy hug that always makes me feel better.
That last photo which included me isn't the best but I added it because that was are thing our cuddle where he would every now and then lick my face as if he was giving me a little kiss, bless his heart.
Before the vet took him from my arms at lunchtime today, I had checked and asked that I was doing the right thing, he was in pain and his out look wasn't good long term his bloods showed either a ragging infection or cancer I am so cross with myself for not having another X-ray done today to check the stone was still there which we think it was but wasn't sure maybe more antibiotics would of helped but it's all to late now. he was his happy self before I took him still eating and drinking fine.... she did confirmed he was in pain and he had already had his morning pain relief. I feel like I have honestly let him down maybe he was on the mend for now and he had passed that stone (I was always checked for it in his cage) and I've just put him to sleep. I'm so confused
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I know mate, i know... :( they are always there for us with their unconditional love.

You did the right thing, you never wouldn't. We have the choice and ability to spare our babies from pain and suffering. You followed the advice of your vet, a vet will never advise putting a animal to sleep unless they see no other way. Better a moment to soon than a second too late... and leaving them in incurable pain
I know the guilt only far too well it is the unfair emotion of grief but it is unreasonable - you will work through it it does pas I promise. Know that you would never inflict this pain upon yourself and know that you could never let him suffer. His mum was there for him when he needed her to be strong and make the most difficult decision we have to face as animal lovers.

The pain is always so raw for the first few days but it does dampen down. Treasure the photo of you together, he will always be in your heart. I am here if you need to talk.

x x
 
I'm so very sorry for your loss :(

The only thing that I can say is that it does eventually get easier and the pain of losing that piggy eventually fades although we never forget them.

Sleep tight Alex xx
 
BIG HUGS

You have done the right thing for Alex - it is the last, but most heart-breaking gift we can make to a suffering piggy. It can come as a real shock when it is an emergency, so it takes some time until your head and heart can come together again and make peace.

You have NOT failed Alex in any way; rather the contrary! It is very normal for any loving pet owner to have these feelings of guilt and/or failure at the onset of the grieving process. These are much stronger when it is a sudden, unexpected death or when you have had to pts.

Give yourself time to grieve. It is not something that you can hurry on. However, if you find that you cannot sleep, function or shake your feelings of loss and guilt, please contact a free pet bereavement service. Many countries have got a line that is manned by specially trained volunteers to listen to you and to help you find constructive ways to cope with your loss. There is no shame in it. Several forum members have made use of it and have found it very helpful.
Here is the UK link for available services: SupportLine - Problems: Pet Bereavement: Advice, support and information

Alex has been a beautiful and special boy. You can start a diary in which you write about your feelings but also record your memories of him; all the snippets and snatches as they come along. Over time, you will realise just how much Alex is with you in your heart and your precious memories, and that by writing it down you will never lose him completely.

if Alex has a companion, here our tips of what you can do for him: Looking After A Bereaved Guinea Pig
 
I am so sorry you lost your wonderful boy, I was in this predicament in December. I lost my first, you will cry a lot, I thing it took a month for me to stop. Like you I blamed myself it wasn't your fault. You were so brave, that's what a piggy slave does. You did what you could, I felt better bringing her home with me.
But nothing is right or wrong in this situation. My heart goes, out to you. Put a post in the rainbow bridge when you feel up to it.
Sleep Tight Little Alex
 
@Wiebke many many thanks for your help and support over the last few weeks. I am very grateful and I'm also grateful for your kind, thoughtful words and your support. He was a single piggy who daily interacted with his friends in a safe way so I took him to see them all before we left for the vets.
A diary sounds a lovely idea I think I'm going to make a scarp book about him on the back of your suggestion and thank you for the links too. All pets mean the world to their loving owners but I've been through so much over the years (e.g. Many surgeries) and my boys cuddles have made me smile and help me through
 
I am so very sorry for your loss. I see now how hard it is for those who lost their cuddly piggie. They do give hugs and kisses and the intuitivly know when people are hurting. I agree you did the right thing, you spared him from his pain. I also agree that no vet would suggest this if he didnt believe it was best for your animal. Trust these folks when they say you are a great mom to your pets, and I believe you will see them again at the Rainbow Bridge.
 
I am so sorry your Alex has gone to the Bridge. You did not let him down at all, you did all you could. It's so hard to let them go but at the end all you can do is take the advise of a trusted vet.
The others have given some very good advise and there's nothing I can add so just sending you hugs and my very best wishes.
 
I'm so sorry. Please don't feel you let him down. He was lucky to have you. Hope you're OK x
 
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I am so sorry to hear about your lost. It is always so hard when it's your first guinea pig, as they are the ones that brought us love for the first time from a guinea pig x But life is very hard at this time, and maybe it was his time to go from pain.

You did the right thing though, setting him free from pain. As guinea pig owners will always feel like its their fault for letting them go, but it wasn't your fault one bit! Please don't feel like this (as you did the right thing) what you did for him in the past was nothing to feel bad about and you shouldn't for this x

As this is something that you just cant get over right away, that's why the guinea pig forum is here to help you while you are going through the hard times x Googe bye Alex, enjoy your new life over the rainbow bridge, that gives you food right away (so no more waiting for your food person to come and give it to you) x
 
I'm so very sorry that you've lost Alex. You have nothing to reproach yourself for. You are a fantastic piggy mum and you've just had to make the most excruciating decision. The only reason you've made that decision is because of the unconditional love you felt for him. Most of us who've kept piggies for any length of time know exactly what you are going through. I struggled once to make the same decision for one of mine. Old as I am I phoned my Mum. And she told me that I had to love him enough to let him go. That's exactly what you have done. You loved him enough not to put him through any more and to let him go to the Rainbow Bridge. Hugest of hugs to you. Popcorn free beautiful Alex xx
 
I'm sorry for your loss,the most selfless decision ,its a big hole in your heart.
you gave Alex a loving forever home.
you will always have your cherished memories.
may the sun shine bright for Alex.
Sweet Dreams Alex
Hugs to you.
 
I am so sorry for the loss of your handsome Alex. You sound like such a loving and brave piggie owner, please don't feel you let your boy down. Big hugs.
 
Very sorry to hear about Alex, a very well loved boy. We have to be guided by our vets when the time comes, hard tho it is.
Sleep well Alex, hope your fluffy lilac bum is bouncing through a meadow. Hope you can come to enjoy the photos and memories but it will take a while
 
MycuteBoys said:
I'm so heartbroken and in tears, such and awful thing to go through he's my first rainbow piggy and I really feel like I've let him down. I know only you truly understand how much these cute little piggies mean to us.
RIP by beautiful boy I loved you so much , popcorn free my Alex until we meet again x

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I am so so sorry for your loss.I remember loosing my 1st pig bill about 5 years ago and I was devastated.Out of the two I had back then, I had a real bond with him and I was drinking for a few days as I was so sad and even a few months later round a friends having a drink when I thought I'd come to terms with it I started balling my eyes out when I was talking about him.It does get easier though.Now when I think about him, I think of how he used to popcorn like an idiot, hitting his head on the settee when I got him out.I lost my Sam in July and found that very difficult too and cried myself to sleep for a while after but I can talk about him now without getting upset.If you do need to talk, feel free to message me.We all understand what you're going through xx
 
so sorry for your loss. i do hope you know you made the best decision you could for him x
 
Awwwwww Kel, I'm so so sorry Alex has gone But I echo what has been said already. Do not feel guilty, you did all you could for him and he was such a lucky piggie to have found his way to you. I never doubted you would be a forever 5 star home who would love him and care for him until the end.

Losing a pig is hard, and feelings of guilt are normal too but take the time to grieve and cherish the good memories. Xxxxxx
 
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Thank you very much for taking the time to leave such lovely heart warming and supportive messages I'm very grateful, hugs to you all x
@MrsSuzy thank you very much for believing in my devotion to my gorgeous Alex I fell in love with him from the moment you handed him to me and that love just got stronger and it was clear he loved and trusted me too. Being one of my single piggies he was given lots of hugs, fuss and interaction daily and he loved his lap time (he used to fall asleep on my shoulder) Thank you for your lovely reply also, I promised to give him a loving forever home I just wish it could of been for much longer than it was X

A few weeks on and I'm still missing my handsome Alex So much, the guilt was awful I honestly struggled to sleep because of it, i still feel like I let him down in one way because I was so confused on that final day at the vets but saying that I keep telling myself that I did the kindest thing for him because he was in pain, blood in his urine etc and his blood results showed that he was struggling with something nasty, I couldn't keep putting him through dozens more trips to the vets with all the meds needed, tests, treatments, car journeys etc that's not being kind to him either. I have only just been able to look at photos of him again without bursting into tears and hence the reason for only replying on here now. He is at rest and peaceful I hope popcorning free over the rainbow bridge with all the amazing piggies that have popcorned over the bridge before him. I buried him in a large terracotta plant pot just outside the back door because we hope to move soon and I just can not bare the thought of leaving him behind.
 
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