Lost Without Mae

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I haven't posted for a long time, but feeling bereft having said goodbye to Mae today, and just wanted to reach out to those who would understand.

Mae suffered a stroke in February, but fought on bravely and recovered well. Unfortunately, the stroke turned out to be a symptom of a brain tumour, which gradually affected her balance, vision and movement.

She never stopped eating, or trotting out to see what was going on and she still loved a cuddle right until the end. But today she was unable to swallow properly, and one of her eyes became paralysed. Her breathing became laboured and it was clear she had little time left.

I am heartbroken. She was six years and eight months old. I feel lost without her.

Rest in peace, my lovely Mae.

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Oh hun, I'm so sorry you lost your brave little Mae, she was such a trooper. Rest in peace little darling xx
 
Sorry for your loss of sweet little Mae. It's so hard to lose our beloved babies. Hope the hurt gets a bit better soon, though I know it can take a long time and never completely heals. Hugs! :hug:
 
I am very sorry; you have fought so hard for Mae, so it is very difficult to let go and learn to adapt to a life without her when she has been the focus for so long! You have certainly given her a happy and long life, filled with love and care.

Give yourself time to grieve. It takes time to do that; to go from a feeling of being lost or emptiness to being able to process your feelings gradually and to retrain yourself in your daily routine, as you have so many instinctive little ways of checking up on her all the way, which are going to bring home your loss often very jarringly, as they happen unexpectedly.

Why not start a diary, in which you note how you feel, but also write down all the little and big memories of Mae. Over time, you will find that your feelings change, but you will also discover how much of her is still with you in those precious memories - and as you have written it down, you will never lose her completely. ;)

If you find that you cannot cope in your daily life, struggle to sleep or to move on, please contact a free pet bereavement phone line where you can speak confidentially to a specially trained person. Several forum members have done that and found that it has really helped them. SupportLine - Problems: Pet Bereavement: Advice, support and information

If Mae has a companion, here is what you can do for her: Looking After A Bereaved Guinea Pig

RIP Mae - much loved and much missed!
 
Thank you everyone for your kind words and support - it means a lot at this sad time.

I have 3 sows and a boar all living happily together, so fortunately no surviving pig left alone. They are subdued without Mae to lead them, though! She always was top pig.

Thank you for the sensible advice and suggestions. As Wiebke says, looking after her has been such a focus for so long that I know it will take time to change the habit of going to check on her. And it was so sad going to feed the others this morning and not seeing her lovely face.

Thanks again - I knew people here would understand what it is like to love and lose them.
 
I am really sorry for your loss. It is so hard when we lose one of our loved little ones. They are huge parts of our lives, we can never experience love without loss unfortunately. I promise in time the rawness does fade and while we never forget the ones we have lost we find a new kind of normal. The pain you feel in time will be replaced by happier memories of little Mae. I am sure you have a furry Guardian angel watching over you now as we speak, she must have had such a wonderful life with you. Huge huge hugs x

Sleep well pretty girl

RIP Mae
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Rigby said:
Thank you everyone for your kind words and support - it means a lot at this sad time.

I have 3 sows and a boar all living happily together, so fortunately no surviving pig left alone. They are subdued without Mae to lead them, though! She always was top pig.

Thank you for the sensible advice and suggestions. As Wiebke says, looking after her has been such a focus for so long that I know it will take time to change the habit of going to check on her. And it was so sad going to feed the others this morning and not seeing her lovely face.

Thanks again - I knew people here would understand what it is like to love and lose them.
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Being subdued for some days is the normal group reaction to the passing of a piggy. With the Tribe, the whole room goes quiet for a time.

Take your time to grieve. You cannot hurry that on; but seek help if necessary - it is available and it can really help to just talk to somebody you can be absolutely sure is safe and uninvolved. We all have or have had a piggy that has got under skin and that has been every difficult to get over, so we understand.
 
Thank you. We've been away for a week, which gave a bit of respite. I still find I'm missing her so much and I keep cutting up too much food!

I have collected Mae's ashes from the vet. We're planning to bury her this week, just waiting for nicer weather to spend time in the garden to make a nice spot for her.

I can't believe she's gone. Thanks everyone for the support, it's good to know I'm not alone. X
 
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