My Sweet Girly Died Monday And Now Her Sister Is Alone

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Kadz

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Hi everyone
I just wanted to see if i could get any advice. My baby Fudge died on monday as she had developed utherus tumor and had a surgery that seemed to go well and she apparently woke up (as she stayed with vets after surgery) but sadly had a possible complication in the eavning and passed away.
She had a cage mate Toffee whos now alone. We too her to say goodbye when collecting Fudges body yesterday but Toffee just touced the nose of her sister and wanted back to her box.
To make it easier to us and hopefully to Toffee as well we got rid of their shared cage after Toffee had few hours in there on Monday before we knew that her sister had passed away. Shes now in a single cage by my bed.
I dont know if she is fully fine as she seem to eat hay and veggies (not as much the dry food by the looks of the things) howewer i have only seen her drink once and she only touched the bottle once. To comfort her we stuffed an old stuffy rabbits toy with socks and she seem to be close to it.
Howewer its really hard for me to deal with the whole thing because loosing my lil baby has broke me. Dont get me wrong i love both my piggies equaly but Fudge was really close to me and i only had her for 6 months (we rehomed the sisters last june) and we was away 3 weeks so i only had 4 days with her since we got back. I try my best to comfort Toffee but as they never really liked cuddling (being outside piggies for around 4 yrs) and its difficult to get her out of the cage every time.
I am not planning to get another pig (i know its possibly harsh on Toffee but i dont want any more pets after her because its hurt me so much already) and giving her away is not an option (even if i could go and see her every day with new family) but I'm so hurt atm and dont know how to deal with the whole sitiuation. I'm sorry about the very long thread but if anybody can help me i would really apreciate it. Thank You

Kadz and Toffee
 
Hello Kadz and Toffee.
First I'm so sorry to hear about Fudge and i can tell through your message you loved him very much and you are struggling. That Kadz is 100% understandable.
On here are people who CAN and Will help you and Toffee.
I'm not experience enough to tell you about grieving and i have personally when I lost my soul mate piggie but I can say soon some one will on the forum.
They are lots of threads dealing with many issues and you will as I learn and benefit from them.
YOU are not alone and what I think you have done takin Toffee to see Fudge after his passing is a MASSIVE step forward to piggie and you. Seriously I say well done that must been very emotional all round. I admit I wiped a little tear thinking about it Kadz.
KADZ you now have to be strong and positive for yourself and Toffee it will and does take time to get over what you going through. No piggie ever wants to die and we piggie owners and slaves have to deal with it.
To FUDGE oh my you little love you have a few broken hearts left here. But don't you worry we will fix them little lady. You find my PEDRO at Rainbow Bridge and have a good Squeeeeek about us. Pop Away Guys.
 
Thank You David pet lover for your nice comment. I'm indeed struggling alot right now and i think my Toffee has started to grieve because she is sitting and snuggling with the soft toy. Its my first expirience with guienea pigs and I'm literally not sure how to deal with all of it.

Love
Kadz and Toffee
 
Hi Kadz,
I am so sorry for your loss, it’s heartbreaking when a special little piggy passes. Fudge knew that you loved her so much. She was a poorly piggy and you did everything you could to save and help her. She loved you equally too.
Please give yourself time to process what has happened. But also, please think about Toffee and her needs. She can’t get support from others from a supportive forum such as this. She loves you unreservably as her human mummy. But she’s a little guinea pig, who’ll welcome another guinea pig friend into her world. When the time is right, please consider getting a friend & companion for Toffee.
This forum is a great place for advice & support. Once again I’m so sorry for your loss :luv: x
 
hello

First off I am really sorry for your loss. We have all been through what you are feeling now. I know its hard and the pain is really raw but it will lessen and your heart does mend, you won't feel like this forever. Take time be be kind to yourself grief is a complex emotion and everyones journey through grief is different.

You did the right thing with showing Fudge to Toffee - well done there, it is hard to do but is the best for Toffee. Toffee will know that Fudge has crossed to the Rainbow bridge and will be grieving as piggies do - but they also have strong survival instincts and are very resilient and do often get on with surviving and living straight away after the loss of a friend. It is excellent news she is eating, just keep a close eye on her to make sure this continues as if she wasn't then that would be an issue that she was depressed, but it is sounding positive. Take time to have a read of this thread here Looking After A Bereaved Guinea Pig on how you can help Toffee

My advice would be to pop a cuddly toy in for now and make sure she has plenty of space in the cage for exercise and stimulus, this is important now more than ever.
Piggies need company of their own kind as they are social creatures and no matter how close we are to them we are not their species, that is not to say a lone piggy cannot be happy indeed they can - We have had two lone piggies due to medical issues but ideally they do need a friend and at the age of four, little Toffee may have several years ahead of her. But that is something to think about when you are feeling less heartbroken.

There are several Pet Bereavement phone lines out there if you need to talk to someone and I will link to the here for you SupportLine - Problems: Pet Bereavement: Advice, support and information

Once again, so sorry for your loss and please feel free to leave a memorial to Fudge in the Forums Rainbow Bridge section
 
Hi Hoppity. K
Thank You for the reply. I appreciate every kind word and support as i am really broken. I have put Toffee next to my bed in a different cage so i can keep my eye on her and she can sence us around. I took her to the frontroom yesterday as my husband was building a little hideout corner for her in the new cage and she freaked out so keeping her in my bedroom for now.
I have thougt about getting another pig but (i know its early days jet) but we have decided to have Toffee as our last pet (after wanting pets for long time and having my girls i was sure i could handle everything but now i relize why i did not get any new pets after my dog passed away). Its extreamly harsh i know but i know i have to be there for my lil Toffee now
Love
Kadz and Toffee
 
Kadz said:
Hi Hoppity. K
Thank You for the reply. I appreciate every kind word and support as i am really broken. I have put Toffee next to my bed in a different cage so i can keep my eye on her and she can sence us around. I took her to the frontroom yesterday as my husband was building a little hideout corner for her in the new cage and she freaked out so keeping her in my bedroom for now.
I have thougt about getting another pig but (i know its early days jet) but we have decided to have Toffee as our last pet (after wanting pets for long time and having my girls i was sure i could handle everything but now i relize why i did not get any new pets after my dog passed away). Its extreamly harsh i know but i know i have to be there for my lil Toffee now
Love
Kadz and Toffee
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Aww, sounds like she is going to have al ovely hideout downstairs then too! Probably the diy noise that scared her.
 
Toffee is such a lucky piggy to have such a caring & doting mummy slave. Give her an extra cuddle from me :wub: xx
 
Hi sport_billy

Thank You for Your reply.
I have given Toffee a stuffed toy and she seem to be really close to it. Fudge had quite few health issues and deep down i had the fear of loosing her first but i was never really ready for the pain. I have taken holiday til next monday so i can keep eye on my lil Toffee now. As she is not really cuddling with us (they never were due being outside all their life til they met us) i have just let her stay in the cage but talking to her and stroking her when she lets me.
I see how time heals my heart but its too painful

Love
Kadz and Toffee
 
Kadz said:
Hi sport_billy

Thank You for Your reply.
I have given Toffee a stuffed toy and she seem to be really close to it. Fudge had quite few health issues and deep down i had the fear of loosing her first but i was never really ready for the pain. I have taken holiday til next monday so i can keep eye on my lil Toffee now. As she is not really cuddling with us (they never were due being outside all their life til they met us) i have just let her stay in the cage but talking to her and stroking her when she lets me.
I see how time heals my heart but its too painful

Love
Kadz and Toffee
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I promise the pain gets less, it will not feel as raw soon. Please take care of yourself.
 
Oh lass sending you a massive hug. :hug:
I know what you saying about losin a pet wether its a dog cat piggie anything the pain when we lose them is hurtful.
That's because we care and love them and going to miss them..
i also lass was never again but I soon realized I had love and a home to enjoy with another.
Remember the good great times and smile. xx
 
Dear Kadz, grief is the price we pay for loving and grief takes time. You cannot rush the process but as others have said the raw pain does ease. Fudge will hold a place in your heart forever. Be gentle and kind to yourself and Toffee will help that. She grieves too in her own way.
After my boar Titus lost his brother I couldn’t imagine getting another piggy however it became clear that I wasn’t enough company for him and so after a little snip he was introduced to 2 sows.
They lived happily together and the girls found their own place in my heart.
Love is always big enough to encompass more but the lost one remains a treasured memory.
Give thanks for the time you had with Fudge and be patient with yourself as you grieve.
 
Hi Merab's Slave

Thank You for the lovely reply. I will never forget my girly Fudge and keep her in my heart forever.
I had a little time to think and maybe i will concider another pig but maybe just to foster them (dont get me wrong but i dont know if i could have another round of piggies) til its Toffees time to go to piggies haven. Its an option but i cant see that i would want to have another forever piggie after Toffee and if just fostering a younger pig to keep my girl company is an option its possibly the best. Howewer it sounds really awful idea and i need to think of my remaining girl first but i also need to think about my feelings as well. I have taken the loss of my baby Fudge so hard and i know i have one more to go so just imagineing having another lonely pig after Toffee passes is making me terrified.
My husband and i have been cuddling her and shes got a snuggly toy that she seem to like and she hides behind it. As she is next to my bed (and i like to keep it that way for now) i can support her trough night as well. I also spoke to my friend who has a lone female piggie (who seem to get trough loss of her cage mate few months ago and is apparently reasonable well) and maybe if my Toffee needs we can see if they get on and we take her to our home.
I'm sorry its a long reply but talking about it helps me alot.

Love
Kadz and Toffee
 
Thank You x
Toffee is a really brave little piggy and she seem to eat well. we have weighed her and shes put on bit of weight possibly because i give her a lil too much veggies. Its difficult to adjust so quick as -despite feeling poorly Fudge was still eating well before her last ever vet visit :-( so i need to think harder when i give Toffee food and half it.
but what is starting to worry me a little bit is that i have not seen or heard Toffee drink (as she is now next to my bed i would deffenetly hear it trough sleep).
I know time heals but right now it sounds impossible
Love
Kadz and Toffee
 
Of course it feels impossible to believe that your grief will ease. That is perfectly normal. Just take one day at a time . Try not to be too worried about Toffee. Guinea pigs have strong survival instincts and her grief will also ease as she gets on with the business of living in her own time.
 
Kadz said:
Hi everyone
I just wanted to see if i could get any advice. My baby Fudge died on monday as she had developed utherus tumor and had a surgery that seemed to go well and she apparently woke up (as she stayed with vets after surgery) but sadly had a possible complication in the eavning and passed away.
She had a cage mate Toffee whos now alone. We too her to say goodbye when collecting Fudges body yesterday but Toffee just touced the nose of her sister and wanted back to her box.
To make it easier to us and hopefully to Toffee as well we got rid of their shared cage after Toffee had few hours in there on Monday before we knew that her sister had passed away. Shes now in a single cage by my bed.
I dont know if she is fully fine as she seem to eat hay and veggies (not as much the dry food by the looks of the things) howewer i have only seen her drink once and she only touched the bottle once. To comfort her we stuffed an old stuffy rabbits toy with socks and she seem to be close to it.
Howewer its really hard for me to deal with the whole thing because loosing my lil baby has broke me. Dont get me wrong i love both my piggies equaly but Fudge was really close to me and i only had her for 6 months (we rehomed the sisters last june) and we was away 3 weeks so i only had 4 days with her since we got back. I try my best to comfort Toffee but as they never really liked cuddling (being outside piggies for around 4 yrs) and its difficult to get her out of the cage every time.
I am not planning to get another pig (i know its possibly harsh on Toffee but i dont want any more pets after her because its hurt me so much already) and giving her away is not an option (even if i could go and see her every day with new family) but I'm so hurt atm and dont know how to deal with the whole sitiuation. I'm sorry about the very long thread but if anybody can help me i would really apreciate it. Thank You

Kadz and Toffee
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Hello Katz:hug:
I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I've never lost a Guinea Pig yet, but I am VERY close to one of mine and I know it will be a heartbreaking day when they pass away. If you ever need to talk I am here! <3 You and Toffee are in my prayers. Xx
-Lily:soz:
 
Kadz said:
Hi everyone
I just wanted to see if i could get any advice. My baby Fudge died on monday as she had developed utherus tumor and had a surgery that seemed to go well and she apparently woke up (as she stayed with vets after surgery) but sadly had a possible complication in the eavning and passed away.
She had a cage mate Toffee whos now alone. We too her to say goodbye when collecting Fudges body yesterday but Toffee just touced the nose of her sister and wanted back to her box.
To make it easier to us and hopefully to Toffee as well we got rid of their shared cage after Toffee had few hours in there on Monday before we knew that her sister had passed away. Shes now in a single cage by my bed.
I dont know if she is fully fine as she seem to eat hay and veggies (not as much the dry food by the looks of the things) howewer i have only seen her drink once and she only touched the bottle once. To comfort her we stuffed an old stuffy rabbits toy with socks and she seem to be close to it.
Howewer its really hard for me to deal with the whole thing because loosing my lil baby has broke me. Dont get me wrong i love both my piggies equaly but Fudge was really close to me and i only had her for 6 months (we rehomed the sisters last june) and we was away 3 weeks so i only had 4 days with her since we got back. I try my best to comfort Toffee but as they never really liked cuddling (being outside piggies for around 4 yrs) and its difficult to get her out of the cage every time.
I am not planning to get another pig (i know its possibly harsh on Toffee but i dont want any more pets after her because its hurt me so much already) and giving her away is not an option (even if i could go and see her every day with new family) but I'm so hurt atm and dont know how to deal with the whole sitiuation. I'm sorry about the very long thread but if anybody can help me i would really apreciate it. Thank You

Kadz and Toffee
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Hello Katz:hug:
I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I've never lost a Guinea Pig yet, but I am VERY close to one of mine and I know it will be a heartbreaking day when they pass away. If you ever need to talk I am here! <3 You and Toffee are in my prayers. Xx
-Lily:soz:
 
Hello,

First off, I'm terribly sorry for your loss, I'm sure she'll be really happy on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge, knowing she had such a wonderful and caring owner. I'll just give my opinion to you, as that's all I can really do (This is from my experience). I lost my Fudge back in March, and I knew the next day that I had to get Peanut another buddy to keep him satisfied. As they were bonded from October to March, they were really close, and spent every minute of every day together, and they were inseparable. Once Fudge died, I let Peanut smell and see him for once last time, and after that he instantly dropped in mood, energy, didn't eat or drink. And that instantly gave me the idea of getting another guinea pig, as he definitely needed it, other people agree'd with me too.

As Toffee is not drinking, I would just recommend giving her cucumber as a source of water for now, and replace her water every day, and she might pick it back up. Along with the others, I agree on waiting some time until you think it's right for you, and Toffee another Guinea Pig for both support, and company, you'll know when the time is right for both of you.

Like everyone else has said, we are all extremely sorry for your loss, many of us have been there, I, myself have lost 3 of my own piggies now, 6 including my brothers (We shared them), and it is painful, no matter how long you had them. But it does get easier, just remember the enjoyable times you had with Fudge, that might help you, it definitely helped me. If you have any pictures of her, you could always get them printed off, and keep them on your wall, to help you remember those good times; that is another thing I have done, and it makes me smile every time I look at them.

I hope I helped, even just a little, and I wish you all the best. I'm sure Fudge knew you loved her dearly, and would agree that her life spent with you, was one she was extremely happy with.
 
Hi Dom R

My Toffee started drinking last night. She seems to deal with it better than i am. After putting a towel over the other side of the new cage to give her more privacy she seem to come out from her hiding corner more. Only time will show how she gets on alone. I have started talks with a rescue centre if i could possibly foster a temporary pig til Toffee is with us and they said its a possible option.
I will love my Fudge forever and keep all our memories in my heart x

Love
Kadz and Toffee
 
Kadz said:
Hi Dom R

My Toffee started drinking last night. She seems to deal with it better than i am. After putting a towel over the other side of the new cage to give her more privacy she seem to come out from her hiding corner more. Only time will show how she gets on alone. I have started talks with a rescue centre if i could possibly foster a temporary pig til Toffee is with us and they said its a possible option.
I will love my Fudge forever and keep all our memories in my heart x

Love
Kadz and Toffee
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Good Morning Kadz and Toffee.
That's great she's havin some water and copin well.
Toffee will be missing Fudge so much and she is there for you as you are for her.
You are doing really well all of you puttin a brave face on can't hide the hurt. I know I was a wreck once. These people on here gave me time love and understanding for that I forever be grateful. You my dear are a fantastic piggie slave.
Pls could you put a pictue of Fudge and Toffee.
Between us I'm going to be very brave and show you my passed away love. 20170328_164220.webpPEDRO. He's now chasin Fudge. xx
I Miss him everyday but now I tell him Thanks for everything we did together.
 
Wow she's a stunner.
Thank you for being so brave and putting picture on.
I know it was hard and will be for a long time.
Being a little selfish as this is Fudge story but when my guy died he was a lone piggie rescued from a horrible situtation I in a million years didn't expect this. downloadfile-61.webpThree Girls. Lol. So lass time mends us. xx
 
Hi David pet lover
As you see Fudge was the guard and Toffee always hid behind her. I know my heart will never fully mend but i know with time it gets little easier (i have lost 2 dogs and 3 cats in the past) but now the regreths of "maybe if i would have done things different" are hunting me :( but i know that unless there is a timemachine i cant chance the past :(

Its not being selfish at all sharing your story. I think Fudge and Pedro are having a good time popcorning and munching hey in the piggies haven x

Love
Kadz and Toffee
 
Yes they are. I was told about Animal heaven when Pedro died and it a beautiful place called Rainbow Bridge where all loved animals meet after they leave us. They play eat all the fresh food and when we pass we meet them again and cross the bridge together.
You got me cryin lass.
Look at the Rainbow Bridge on here and you see what I mean Kadz.
As for regrets . . . what if. . . that is totally normal and part of the course of grief.
I'm 6 months or so since and still think.that. xx.
I've been told by wonderful people on here we all feel that. .
xx
 
I'm sorry did not want to make you cry too.i find it so much harder to accept because it happened so suddenly and she was still young and did not want to give up jet. At least I got to say goodbye and give her kisses and say how much i loved her before they took her to surgery. I guess some things are not meant to be :-(
I am looking forwards to meet all my lost babies one day again x
 
You will one day.
i didn't get to say goodbye he died on way back from the vets after gettin the thumbs up from a routine check up.
Oh lass we miss um.
You got Toffee now and she you that's very special. x
 
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