Pet bereavement help

[Hollie85]

Hi can anyone give me any advice of UK based pet bereavement help services please?
Any one that’s had experience with any of them?
Thankyou everyone

 

[Claire W]

You can contact the blue cross to talk to a trained counsellor. I hope you’re ok? Pet bereavement and pet loss

 

[Hollie85]

Thankyou I will take a look at this!
I’m not great to be honest we’re 3 weeks after he passed away and it obviously is getting slowly better but the guilt I feel is immense

 

[Claire W]

Thankyou I will take a look at this!
I’m not great to be honest we’re 3 weeks after he passed away and it obviously is getting slowly better but the guilt I feel is immense

After losing pets myself, I can tell you that the pain you feel now will eventually ease and you’ll be able to think of him with fond memories. Please don’t feel guilty, you did nothing wrong x

 

[Hollie85]

I feel I did, I had him neutered, I didn’t do enough research, I trusted a local vets and didn’t ask how many neutures he’d already done, he was eating an hour or so after coming home and through the evening and the next day but clearly not enough so I didn’t give him the proper care, I was complacent as he’d started eating! I was at work the next day and should have stayed home with him as we’d have got him back to the vets sooner! Lots of things I wish I could change and it all happened so quick I don’t actually really know what happened so I can’t move on from it and have closure
Thankyou for responding to me

 

[Claire W]

You had him neutered for his best interests but sadly these things happen and things can go wrong. There really is nothing more you could have done for him. He wouldn’t want you to feel bad x

 

[Two_Wheeks]

@Hollie85 Please don't beat yourself up. You didn't do anything wrong. I have been in your position and felt (still feel on occasion) that I could and should have noticed things sooner and done more. Sometimes, you are not the one holding the cards. Sometimes, the decision is taken out of your hands.

I'm almost 6 months post-loss, and still get pangs of guilt and sadness. But I know, deep down, that I did what I could. Your little piggy would not want you beating yourself up or blaming yourself. Piggies are masters of disguise and will be ok even when they're not. Your little man would love to be able to tell you it's ok, it wasn't your fault.

Contact the Blue Cross, have a chat with them. It's hard to come to terms with an unexpected loss. It will take time, but you will get there xx

 

[weepweeps]

Try not to blame yourself. It’s hard I know. Take care

 

[Hollie85]

I know and I’m trying to rationalise this but it’s just so hard and he was so young and I don’t know if it was the best fault or my fault but I know he didn’t deserve it even harder having to continue looking after his buddy knowing that he should be there with him
It’s hard as I don’t think anyone understands which is why this forum is so helpful
I really appreciate the time you’ve taken to respond, sorry to here about your piggy I wish you all the best with healing

@Hollie85 Please don't beat yourself up. You didn't do anything wrong. I have been in your position and felt (still feel on occasion) that I could and should have noticed things sooner and done more. Sometimes, you are not the one holding the cards. Sometimes, the decision is taken out of your hands.

I'm almost 6 months post-loss, and still get pangs of guilt and sadness. But I know, deep down, that I did what I could. Your little piggy would not want you beating yourself up or blaming yourself. Piggies are masters of disguise and will be ok even when they're not. Your little man would love to be able to tell you it's ok, it wasn't your fault.

Contact the Blue Cross, have a chat with them. It's hard to come to terms with an unexpected loss. It will take time, but you will get there xx

 

[Freela]

((HUGS.)) I feel for you. Grief sucks. We lost my avatar pig, Hadley, last week and I'm having a hard time. I just miss her so much and I hate seeing her friend alone (we can't get another pig right now due to lockdown restrictions in our province.) It just sucks. I hope you are able to talk to someone and release some of the guilt you feel.

 

[Hollie85]

Its 3 weeks on and I still feel awful but I rang a bereavement line this morning and it was great talking to someone who sympathises and understands ( most people just don't understand, especially with small animals )
What happened to your lovely piggy Hadley?
hugs to you too xx

((HUGS.)) I feel for you. Grief sucks. We lost my avatar pig, Hadley, last week and I'm having a hard time. I just miss her so much and I hate seeing her friend alone (we can't get another pig right now due to lockdown restrictions in our province.) It just sucks. I hope you are able to talk to someone and release some of the guilt you feel.

 

[Betsy]

I lost my 2 boars who were brothers (didn't live together) within 4 days of each other at the end of last year. That was very hard to come to terms with. Dennis had a horrendous URI which despite my and the vets best efforts he just couldn't shift and his little body just couldn't take any more and Christian (I think) must have had a heart attack as his feet were on the food bowl when I found him in the morning. Christian had been on a high dose of Metacam for a long time for arthritis in his spine (prescribed by the vet). That left their wifelets (Christian had 2 and Dennis had 1) luckily I managed to bond all three of them successfully and they live a life of luxury in their dotage in the Penthouse Suite of the hutch.

 

[Claire W]

I’m so glad that you found the courage to phone a bereavement line and that it helped x

 

[Wiebke]

Hi!

Very sorry for your loss and that you are having such a bad time.

You may also find our sensitive and practical bereavement guide with links further resources and support services (stickied in the Bonding, Behaviour and Bereavement care section) helpful for the coming weeks as you will likely recognise quite a few of the feelings, including the battle with intense guilt.
Human Bereavement: Grieving, Coping and Support Links for Guinea Pig Owners and Their Children

 

[Freela]

Its 3 weeks on and I still feel awful but I rang a bereavement line this morning and it was great talking to someone who sympathises and understands ( most people just don't understand, especially with small animals )
What happened to your lovely piggy Hadley?
hugs to you too xx

She was just on the older side (about 6 years and 8 months.) She was fine right up until the time when she wasn't. I'm thankful that she had a good long life, but she leaves a very large absence in her wake. And I completely agree that a lot of people don't understand the grief, especially when it comes to small pets. I feel like people understand when you lose a dog that this is a part of your family... people don't always understand when you lose a smaller animal that they were also a part of your family. And that's so hard. I'm glad you found someone you could talk to. Everyone here certainly knows where you're coming from as well. Many gentle ((HUGS)) to you.