Relationship-big decision, please help

[Gemm24]

Hi everyone. I m not sure where to post this. I need some help. my boyfriend wants me and my three pigs to move in, however I’m reluctant to move to the next step in our relationship because
1-he isn’t a piggie person and I know their mess and smell will cause issues (he says it won’t, but I know it will) and his family will make comments because they aren’t used to them either which will influence my bf.
2- I am also worried about leaving them there when I go to work, not because he will do anything but I just worry about them beaceuae he isn’t used to them.
3- the move will be stressful for them and I don’t want to stress them out. I have one pig that is very stressy. They are happy where they are. They have the best life where they are. I don’t want to disturb that.
4-they would have less room where they are moving too (currently mine are free range and are kings and queens-they would be confined to their enclosure at his place)

I feel like I am choosing between them and the next stage in my life. I would choose them always of course but need some advice. I have asked him to move in with me but my mum lives with me and it would not be ideal. My mum is happy to take care of the pigs if i do move but even the thought of that breaks my heart because they are my babies.

thanks everyone for listening,just getting it off my chest helps.

 

[Lady Kelly]

Could you compromise somewhere down the line? Maybe saving up for your own place so you aren't living with family? Or maybe he could move in to yours? Of course, if you just don't feel ready for that step yet then equally you should just feel able to say so because it is a big step even without pets

 

[Zanzan]

It does sound as if your worries about the pigs are indicative of more issues. How well do you get on with his family? Living with someone else's family can be incredibly stressful. This is only my opinion but it sounds like you don't want to do the move and have perhaps come on here so that someone will advise you not to do it? Follow that feeling in your heart. When you think about moving in with him what is that first immediate feeling you get? That's the feeling to follow.
Ps.... your piggies are lovely, the middle one reminds me so much of my rainbow pig Lucinda

 

[tabelmabel]

I agree with Zanzan - if you really wanted to move in with him, you'd solve all the piggy things in seconds.

It sounds to me as if your 'gut' is telling you 'no'

Neither would you be asking on a forum - you'd have been right in there if it felt right.

 

[Freela]

I'm wondering if the pigs are a stand-in for other things in the relationship making you feel unsure?

In a nutshell, I would base relationship decisions on the relationship... the pet stuff can be worked out. Relationships are all about compromise. If moving in together feels right, your pigs will adjust and he will have to learn to compromise (and someone who isn't willing to compromise about bringing pets into the relationship might be a warning sign right there.) But if moving in together doesn't feel right... listen to your gut there.

 

[horsefeather]

From experience, piggies aside, do not move in with some one who lives with their parents, even if youre married.