Feeling so deeply about your pets (especially as you have been caring for your own very ill boy for so long now), seeing threads like that can be very upsetting as they go right against every fibre in our own being and in your current battle for Casran's life, but it is always important to remember that whoever bothers to come on here still CARES when it comes to the bottom line. It is most often a cry for help (the others who truly can't be bothered we generally don't see on here except in the form of adopted rescue piggies!)
We have all got different sensibilities and ways to express them, and we need to accept that.
Unrealistic expectations, wrong advice, mental or phyiscal illness/work load/job loss/family crises etc. can lead to any of us reaching the limits of our own endurance at some point or other as we go through life. Threads like the ones that upset you often have very little to do with the usually pretty real commitment you have for your pets but more with feeling that you are not able to live up to your own high expectations and perceiving yourself as a failure - hence you are not able to "love properly" or have not been able to form a bond in the way you expected in the first place... We have all different ways of expressing that. It is important to offer a space that allows you to talk about it without being shot down.
When it comes down it, we are about the welfare of all guinea pigs coming in touch with the forum. It is vital to work out what the problem is and whether we can help the owner out of a dead end with their piggies so they can go on to enjoy their pets, or if they really struggle to keep and deal with their piggies, then help them to find a constructive solution to ensure that the piggies get somewhere safe where their future wellbeing is guaranteed.
But it can be quite a straddle we have to do on a forum that tries to be as open-minded, constructive and friendly as ours. Not all issues are for everybody - this is in many ways like it is not for all of our members to answer Rainbow Bridge threads, while those same threads can be a real relief for some others to have a place where they can speak about their loss and their struggle to cope with it. There is nothing wrong if you can't do it all.
We have all got different sensibilities and ways to express them, and we need to accept that.
Unrealistic expectations, wrong advice, mental or phyiscal illness/work load/job loss/family crises etc. can lead to any of us reaching the limits of our own endurance at some point or other as we go through life. Threads like the ones that upset you often have very little to do with the usually pretty real commitment you have for your pets but more with feeling that you are not able to live up to your own high expectations and perceiving yourself as a failure - hence you are not able to "love properly" or have not been able to form a bond in the way you expected in the first place... We have all different ways of expressing that. It is important to offer a space that allows you to talk about it without being shot down.
When it comes down it, we are about the welfare of all guinea pigs coming in touch with the forum. It is vital to work out what the problem is and whether we can help the owner out of a dead end with their piggies so they can go on to enjoy their pets, or if they really struggle to keep and deal with their piggies, then help them to find a constructive solution to ensure that the piggies get somewhere safe where their future wellbeing is guaranteed.
But it can be quite a straddle we have to do on a forum that tries to be as open-minded, constructive and friendly as ours. Not all issues are for everybody - this is in many ways like it is not for all of our members to answer Rainbow Bridge threads, while those same threads can be a real relief for some others to have a place where they can speak about their loss and their struggle to cope with it. There is nothing wrong if you can't do it all.
I'm confident they'll get there. My first piggy was one who was kept on her own in a very small hutch in a shed. She was a chore, unwanted, and had the minimal of care. She was fed, given water and hay but in th4e way of veg it was just a carrot once a week, and she wasn't cleaned out often, according to the neighbour.... she wasn't well socialised with people anyhow, and was very scared indeed when she came to me.
this pig with all my heart and that is the gods honest truth! I feel sick when I think that if I didn't rehome him, he could have ended up anywhere! Don't get me wrong there were times when I thought is he ever going to calm down but I am not the type of person to give up on something when I get started and now after slot of hardwork and dedication I have a cuddly licky loving big piggy 1 year later