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I'm so heartbroken

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Just to let you know that Bab died this afternoon after 3 months of struggle with eating/mouth problems. I'm so shocked as there was no sign of deterioration and he even climbed out of his cage for his usual syringe feed at breakfast time and lunchtime. He couldnt eat lunch and I thought something was blocking his throat but there was nothing obstructing. I put him into his cage so I could warm up his heat pad but he fell over and I realised something was so wrong. I lifted him on to my knee and just cuddled him, he was so poorly so quickly but he passed awat peacefully after 3 hours and now he looks so like he is just asleep. He has been syringe fed for 12 weeks now and he was very thin but I had seen him improve over the past few days and hoped with all my heart he was getting better. I feel so lost and lonely now and don't know what to do with my time as I was devoted to him over past 12 weeks. Also can anyone help me, what is the best thing to do. Should I bury him in my garden or should I ask my vet to cremate him and then scatter his ashes.Its just too unbearable for me, please tell me what he would want. He was only 3, so just a boy really.I hope that some of you may be online as I know you can understand how I am tonight and the depth of my sad heart. Yours Babsmam.
 
Sorry for your loss. A lot of people have 'Pig Pots' or 'Pet Pots' that they bury pigs/pets in. Just ordinary garden pots with a planet on the top...
 
I'm sorry to hear your sad news honey

Personally i have buried all my animals that have passed away in my garden i couldnt bear the thought of not having them here and each one has a special flower by them or a rose bush

No consolation i know but you did what you could for him and no-one could fault you for that

Love & Hugs honey
 
So sorry for your loss. :'( :'(

There is no right or wrong answer in regards to burial or cremation - just do what feels right for you.

Hugs to you at this terrible time.
 
I'm so sorry to hear this I know you've tried your best for Bab, as for what to do with him now, a lot of people do bury in the garden and put a nice plant or shrub on the top. Some people who don't have a permanent garden have used a big flower pot so they could take them when they moved. If you have him cremated then you could keep his ashes indoors with you in a pot.

Hugs to you and we are all here.

Run free little Bab x x
 
:'(Thank you all. I feel that you are with me and understand how lost I am tonight. I just miss Bab soooooooooo much.
 
So very sorry to hear about your little Bab :'(
He's now eating clover and popcorning at the Bridge, say hi to Sully for me :'(
Take care thinking of you at this very difficult time <HUGS>
I buried Sully in the garden where i can see him as i come down our stairs to feed Duke, this has helped me.
Everyone is different, i agree do what you feel is right for you.
 
I'm so very sorry. I went through exactly the same with my darling Dr.

Big hugs x
 
Night night little man. God Bless. All the suffering is over now. Hope you eat lots of lollo rosso in heaven. I love Bab so much, I have sent a little bit of my heart with him to keep him company. Things will never be quite the same again.
 
I know how you're feeling :'(

Time helps a little, remember all the wonderful times of being a slave to your little darling, take care :-*
 
My first morning in 12 weeks that I didnt have to get up to give Bab his breakfast. It feels so strange like I'm wandering about looking for something to do. Bab looks so peaceful and my husband is going to find a nice little box and then we will bury Bab in the back garden sometime this evening. I am going to bury him next to my Freddie Mercury rosebush because it has the most beautiful blooms with a lovely fragrance. Very strangely the bush has 1 bud left which I may cut and put it in beside Bab. I'm sorry for going on with my sad story but I need to write it all down and it helps to know that you understand my sadness.I couldn't sleep but I'm off to work anyway as I think thats best. It will be so unusual when I don't have to rush home at 12 o clock to feed Bab as he no longer needs me. I think I now realise that I needed Bab more than he needed me.
 
you dont have to be sorry darling we ALL know how you are feeling lifes empty and dull with out him is'nt it and you keep thinking if only this and if only that we know honestly we do, thats whats so great abou this forum we do know becasue we have the one thing in common our undying love for guinea pigs , all of my pigs are burioed and I know where each of them are buried over the years thats a lot of pigs but I astound hubby when I say dont dig there so and sos buried there, we never forget, the idea of a bush is great my little lavender and bear died in march and are buried in my lavender garden, Henry is under the apple tree domino is under another bush along with 5 others just outside the pigs shed doors , each have a special place like they do in our hearts, God bless bab enjoy rainbow bridge bet hes stuffing his face with fresh grass right now, chin up sweetheart you talk all you like on here none of us feel anything other then upset for you, :'( :'(
 
Oh, I def. know how you are feeling :'(

there is nothing we can say or do to make you feel better, but know that our thoughts are with you,
and if you need to talk, just PM us.
We all have been through this, and we know how much it hurts... :(
 
I'm so sorry to hear this.

I went through the exact same thing with my Munchkin, so i know how you are feeling.

Sending you big hugs

We are all here.

Run free at the bridge Bab

x
 
Sorry to hear about your loss of Bab, you did everything you could and have beeen a devoted pigom and he would know that...

On the practical side, I have the vet cremate my animals and I am happy with this, but everyone has there own ideas and they should be followed.

Thinking of you, Take care,
Barbara
 
Thank you all so very much. Its so quiet in the house today. Just waiting around to go back to work. It helped pass the time away and my patients could see I was upset so most were very kind and had lost pets at some time. I'm just so hoping I didnt make things worse and frighten my little Bab when I wrapped him in a towel and laid him on his back to see if there was anything in the back of his mouth which was stopping him swallowing the food. I think maybe he was having some kind of stroke which affected his swallow reflex. and then seemed to spread to his back legs after I had checked his mouth. I don't know if that sounds possable but he was frightened when he suddenly could not walk and move his back legs. However it didnt last too long because he became unconscious and then just drifted slowly away over 3 hours. I'm sure he knew I has holding him all the time and reassuring him softly. I really hope he knew I was there with him and not too frightened. I hope he is in a beautiful place now.Your kindness and understanding has helped me so much. Big Thank You from Babsmam.
 
I'm sure he knew you were holding him and knew you were upset about his leaving but think now hes no longer suffering and is popcorning but still is missing you, maybe he did have a stroke ( my dog charlie had this in July and we lost him ) maybe it was a blessing he faded away and was unconsious, God bless little man mummys missing you, play with my angles and say hi to them for me :'( :'( :'( :'( your upset has made me tearful as well remembering all my recent losses, see we are a daft lot big softys and totally devoted to our animals, as it should be , chin up darling
 
Today feels even worse. I managed to sleep last night from sheer exhaustion but when I woke up my first thought was knowing Bab was not there and I can only say my heart feels heavy and in real pain although it's not a physical pain. Much worse as it's pain nothing will cure coming from somewhere in the centre of my soul. I'm so glad I have to go to work, it's the only thing that takes my mind away from my sadness. We couldnt bury Bab last night as it was so dark when I got home. My main concern now is should I put him into a cardboard or wooden box. I went to pet store to buy a suitable box but they don't sell anything at all for that purpose. My sister thinks I should just wrap him loosely in a beautiful scarf and lay him in the ground with all his toys and his favourite things. I'm not sure so any advice will be much appreciated.Please if any of you have any advice at all on how I can do whats best for Bab will you let me know. I know nothing can hurt him or his little body anymore but it still matters so much. Can't see the keyboard now, must go for tissues. Thanks again for listening.
 
It might seem silly...

But could you find a shoe box and maybe decorate it with pretty tissue paper and lay him in there, wrapped in the scarf?
Or you could perhaps simply write a note on the box telling him how much you love him or a favourite poem? You could put his favourite little bits and pieces in there too.

Barbara
 
I'm so sorry

I know how you are feeling. That initial sadness when you wake up in the morning is awful :'(
I had my Bil cremated.
His casket is in the kitchen with his name on. I talk to it sometimes and I feel comforted. I didnt want to put his body in the ground but that was my preference

you have to do what is right for you really
 
Babsman I always do the same when I lose my darlings they get wrapped in tissue, buried very deep as foxes can smell them still and its happened to me one has been dug up thank god hubby found him first and re buried he did'nt tell me until months later when I was attempting to dig a hole saying is this deep enough yet, I was horrified, I then lay a stone or heavy ornament over the top and eventually plant a bush I have a very pretty garden now, the reason for the tissue is that it breaks down quicker and much as it sounds awlful the body is reabsorbed back into the ground, ( I hate the thought of them lying there)
but of course each to their own choices my dog was cremated in July and his ashes are in my bedroom, and my first dog muffin (hence my name) died in 92 is in my loft well his ashes I often forget to say that and get some wierd looks by saying my dead dogs in the loft
and as for the chest pain you discribe, it damn well does hurt does'nt it,? like a hole and its empty but as you say nothing can heal it only time and you have to wait for time to heal, my face is so often scrunched up and blotchy I look like an 80 year old instead of 45, my thoughts are with you sweetheart and your pain is shared by each of us God bless Bab and what ever you deciede to do is the right choice becasue you made it, good luck
 
When Dr became an angel my father made a beautiful wooden coffin. I was so lucky. We lined it with hay, then Dr went in and was wrapped in blue velvet (his fave material). We put in locks of our hair and of the other guineas' fur, a strawberry, some corainder, some rosemary, and a card to Dr from me and the guineas. One day I will post a photo of Angel-Doctor's grave.

I think you must do what's right for you. I like a lot of ceremony for a departure - animal or human - but some people prefer to keep things simple. Just think about your little love and his character and what would suit him and what would help you the most too. Funerals are more for those left behind.

Big hugs x
 
Thank you to you all, you are my comfort and support. We are still deciding what is best for Bab and are lucky to have the cold weather which allows us just that extra time.I am grateful for all the little personal things you have shared with me and you are right that Bab would be content with whatever I decide because he knew how much I loved him and always tried to do my best and what was right. It must be painful for you having to recall what special things you each did at such sad times but I thank you for helping me and hope I can return the kindness to others at some time. I'm hoping to see Alison(Babs Vet) on Thursday, just to talk to her and tell her what happened. I feel that if she can give me any clue as to his sudden deterioration it will be easier to understand. If she can't help then I will accept with grace that it was Gods will and time for Bab to leave me. I'm a great beleiver in fate,and although I have no idea how its all planned out I'm sure that everything has meaning.I will stay in touch and let you know how things go. I feel you are friends and although I have never met any of you I know you are on the same wavelength as me. It's so reassuring, other people I speak to just don't have any understanding of the concept of love for our little animals. My husband and 2 sons have been so lovely in that although they don't feel quite the same, they would never undermine my grief or loss. It's so true that we get by with a little help from our family and friends.Yours Babsmam
 
Babsmam said:
I am grateful for all the little personal things you have shared with me and you are right that Bab would be content with whatever I decide because he knew how much I loved him and always tried to do my best and what was right. It must be painful for you having to recall what special things you each did at such sad times but I thank you for helping me and hope I can return the kindness to others at some time.
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Its very lovely of you to acknowledge this at what must be an awful time for you. Thankyou.
 
Hi I was so sorry to hear about Bab. Sending you warm wishes to keep you strong.

Alex
 
Hello, just to let you know that I decorated a small box and laid Bab in on his soft blanket. I put all his favorite toys beside him and a letter fom me telling him everything I needed to. I also put some fresh flowers and a little food and his favourite treats. For a little boy who had not eaten any solid food for 12 weeks he looked so peaceful and just as if asleep. My garden floods and I was worried about that so my husband took the top off our patio pillar and it was lovely and dry inside although the soil at the bottom was damp. We put straw in first then laid Bab in and put his other things beside him which I could not get in the box with him. I feel so sad but I will be able to see where he is and thats reassuring knowing his little body is not far away from us. We replaced the pillar and we are going to fill the flower urn with flowering plants. Thank you all for helping me, without all the advice I'm sure I would have missed something important and worried about it later.I'm hoping Bab is restored to his health now he has left his earthly body and hope he meets all your departed little pig dudes at the Rainbow Bridge.
 
Thats lovely he's at peace now, and though your heart still aches it helps you feel a bit more positive.

Love & hugs honey

Minkyxx
 
I am so pleased that you came to a decision that felt right for you and you litttle Bab.

You have my telephone number, if you want to talk anytime or I can ever be of help in the future, you know where I am :)
I am sincerely a great believer in a spiritual afterlife and one of my favourite thoughts when I lose a much loved companion animal is~

"No goodbye is the last...."

Take good care of yourself,
Barbara
 
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