Bereaved single Piggy.

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Hello, lovely forum.

As some of you may or may not know, we lost our sweet Biscuit yesterday morning after a short battle with illness and not eating.
I am not yet ready to post in the Rainbow thread, my heart is too tender.

I have read the guides to looking after a bereaved Piggy, and just want some advice or words of wisdom.
My little darling, Piglet, has now lost her sister and lives alone. I have kept Biscuit’s bed in the cage for her to have her scent for comfort.

She is still eating and drinking and I take her out often for mummy cuddles as a small distraction, but otherwise she resides in Biscuit’s bed more or less most of the day. Like I say, she comes out to eat and drink but goes back to the bed.

Is this normal behaviour, do I remove the bed, is this a sign she needs a new friend ASAP?
I know she needs a new friend, but does it have to be right now or have we got time to grieve?

I just need some guidance as this is my first experience with the loss of a Piggy.

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I am so sorry you lost biscuit.

You’ve got time. Piglet needs her time to grieve, but she is likely to be ready for a new friend sooner than you will be. She may be ok on her own for up to a few weeks, but as each will grieve differently, it may be sooner etc.

I note you have read the guides so they give you the signs you need to look out for. Do weigh Piglet regularly to ensure she is in fact eating enough.
 

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Thank you both for your reply, I’m sorry for my slow response I am just taking some time to grieve.

I am feeling that Piglet is already ready to move on, but how can I be sure she has finished her grieving process?
I’m not ready.. but I have to do best by my little girl now.
 

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Thank you both for your reply, I’m sorry for my slow response I am just taking some time to grieve.

I am feeling that Piglet is already ready to move on, but how can I be sure she has finished her grieving process?
I’m not ready.. but I have to do best by my little girl now.
Please dont apologise. If I remember I gave it a week and then brought a little friend home. My piggie was looking a bit forlorn & I felt he was more lonely than grieving to be honest as he had been with his brother since birth. I chose a completely different colour piggie as I didnt want to feel like I was replacing him in any way. Whatever you feel is the right time for you and your piggie will be the right time. It may feel strange at first but you'll feel the love soon enough x
 

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:agr: Their grieving period will vary from piggy to piggy but they are often ready for a new friend anywhere from a few days to a month.
You are looking for signs of loneliness really things such as not moving about as much, not eating as much
 

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Please dont apologise. If I remember I gave it a week and then brought a little friend home. My piggie was looking a bit forlorn & I felt he was more lonely than grieving to be honest as he had been with his brother since birth. I chose a completely different colour piggie as I didnt want to feel like I was replacing him in any way. Whatever you feel is the right time for you and your piggie will be the right time. It may feel strange at first but you'll feel the love soon enough x
Thank you for your kindness. ♥

I kind of feel that Piglet is the same way, she had only known living with Biscuit and now she’s gone, Piglet stays in Biscuit’s bed or she’ll come out for food then go back into hiding. Usually, she is an absolute rocket and I feel like now she’s lonely or bored, I don’t know it’s tough cos she’s staying in Biscuit’s bed that makes me feel like she’s grieving but at the same time, we separated them through advice of the vet when she got ill so she had already spent a short time apart.. so would it hit her as hard? I don’t know... my head is still a mess.

I’m sorry if that ramble didn’t have much understanding to it. ♥
 

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:agr: Their grieving period will vary from piggy to piggy but they are often ready for a new friend anywhere from a few days to a month.
You are looking for signs of loneliness really things such as not moving about as much, not eating as much
Thank you, hun.

She is usually a very active piggy, but I find her hiding most of the time now, unless there’s food being offered. She is still eating and drinking and my god is she pooping. But, there’s something off she isn’t her usual little rocket zooming self. Is that grief or loneliness?
 

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Thank you for your kindness. ♥

I kind of feel that Piglet is the same way, she had only known living with Biscuit and now she’s gone, Piglet stays in Biscuit’s bed or she’ll come out for food then go back into hiding. Usually, she is an absolute rocket and I feel like now she’s lonely or bored, I don’t know it’s tough cos she’s staying in Biscuit’s bed that makes me feel like she’s grieving but at the same time, we separated them through advice of the vet when she got ill so she had already spent a short time apart.. so would it hit her as hard? I don’t know... my head is still a mess.

I’m sorry if that ramble didn’t have much understanding to it. ♥
No that totally makes sense & you can ramble as much as you like 🤗 To be honest I wasn't 100% sure either and, like you, my poorly piggie spent his last few evenings on my lap and was separated too after operations. I remember thinking, right on Saturday or whenever it was, I'm going to find a young piggie & bond them. Never having bonded any piggies before that might have been a tad daft but I read everything I could on here & just threw my time into that as its good to have something positive to focus on . That little piggie is Gregory who is now the top banana with 5 sows. Things will work themselves out & I have a lovely memorial lemon & lime bush in the garden for my brother boy piggies. They were so lovely (Domino is in my avatar) the 2nd brother who passed at a good age of 5 but I'll never forget them & completely empathise with how you are feeling x
 

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No that totally makes sense & you can ramble as much as you like 🤗 To be honest I wasn't 100% sure either and, like you, my poorly piggie spent his last few evenings on my lap and was separated too after operations. I remember thinking, right on Saturday or whenever it was, I'm going to find a young piggie & bond them. Never having bonded any piggies before that might have been a tad daft but I read everything I could on here & just threw my time into that as its good to have something positive to focus on . That little piggie is Gregory who is now the top banana with 5 sows. Things will work themselves out & I have a lovely memorial lemon & lime bush in the garden for my brother boy piggies. They were so lovely (Domino is in my avatar) the 2nd brother who passed at a good age of 5 but I'll never forget them & completely empathise with how you are feeling x
That is amazing, well done Gregory! 💕 Thank you so much for sharing that with me, it means a lot that brought a warmth to my heart and fuzzys to my tummy. ♥
Biscuit was my first piggy ever, we adopted her from the nursery I work at as they weren’t taking care of her - I took her home over the Christmas period and just refused to take her back as she had transformed completely with us. I will be forever grateful to have had her little paws fall into my lap like that as if by fate. My forever princess. ♥

The more I look over to Piglet now, the more I want to get her a new friend to put that love back into her.
Thank you so much for the reassurance, I can’t tell you honestly what it means to me.
 

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I think your little pocket rocket is ready for a new housemate x
I think you are right, sweetie. Thank you for the reassurance. ❤
I think I will definitely go for it this weekend, I need to get that spark back sooner than later. 💕
 

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That is amazing, well done Gregory! 💕 Thank you so much for sharing that with me, it means a lot that brought a warmth to my heart and fuzzys to my tummy. ♥
Biscuit was my first piggy ever, we adopted her from the nursery I work at as they weren’t taking care of her - I took her home over the Christmas period and just refused to take her back as she had transformed completely with us. I will be forever grateful to have had her little paws fall into my lap like that as if by fate. My forever princess. ♥

The more I look over to Piglet now, the more I want to get her a new friend to put that love back into her.
Thank you so much for the reassurance, I can’t tell you honestly what it means to me.
Ah bless you. Keep us posted on developments & keep smiling 😊 xx
 

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A successful bond comes entirely down to character compatibility. If you were to buy a piggy then there is a chance that the bonding won’t be successful and then you’ve got two single piggies having to live in separate cages
If you have a rescue centre near you, then finding a friend via dating is the best way to ensure things work out.
 

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If you can find a rescue with lone females it might be better to take her so she can pick a friend of her own. Just getting a new piggie and bonding them isn’t a guaranteed thing. Always have a Plan B if Plan A doesn’t happen!
Definitely, I will be checking my local rescues. Thank you! 😊
 

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A successful bond comes entirely down to character compatibility. If you were to buy a piggy then there is a chance that the bonding won’t be successful and then you’ve got two single piggies having to live in separate cages
If you have a rescue centre near you, then finding a friend via dating is the best way to ensure things work out.
Thank you I will look into that. ♥
 
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