So, this is the situation. The two survived the week together in the more restricted space of the Ferplast 160 and my friend didn't have to use the gloves(!) Just before we went away, and after two+ weeks together, Betsie's extremely dominant behaviour seemed to be settling down, which tallies with what I have read about the bonding process on the forum. My friend's perception was that they got on well.
But here's the however. She also commented that Ophelia defers to Betsie, such that when she gave them a pile of readigrass, Ophelia watched whilst Betsie ate it all. (Why my friend didn't put a second pile down, especially as I had stressed that Ophelia needs to gain weight and needs the readi-grass...)
Ophelia has continued to lose weight. She has lost 100 g since the vet visit two weeks ago when she was at 820 g. Her weight for most of her six years has stayed stable at around 920g, and she has always been slender. Weighed at the vets yesterday, she is far too skinny at the 720 g she is now. We have booked her in for sedation, ultrasound and an x-ray next week. There is still no tumour that can be felt and she needs to be sedated to look at her teeth. We are starting Oxbow critical care today (my suggestion to the vet) and we put the grid down between them last night. As I told the vet, this weight loss coincides neatly with the death of Bianca and the arrival of Betsie 12 days later.
Separating them was still a hard decision given that they are clearly bonded now. My younger daughter (17 next month), who spends most of her time at her desk right by them, says they often sit near one another. She is worried about the separation weakening the bond. (Fortunately, the vet said that it would be sensible and I am enforcing this now.) However, when I have sat and done nothing but watch them for an hour or so, I am not so happy about the form this bond takes. Yesterday, Betsie was sitting in the mini-hutch next to the cuddle-cup. Ophelia ran in and curled-up in the cuddle-cup right next to her -- all very lovely, until, that is, a few minutes later when Betsie got up and suddenly lunged and nipped at Ophelia's face. Later when they found themselves face to face between two hideys, Ophelia hesitated and then ran away squeaking. Another time, Ophelia just froze when Betsie came near. Despite this, Ophelia is often seeking her out. My interpretation is that she is in a state of constant tension, wanting to be near Betsie but on edge for when the next nip will come. Betsie is no longer tipping her out of every hidey but Ophelia can no longer settle. Betsie stayed within the mini-hutch late last night but Ophelia continued to run around, from hidey to hidey, as though looking for something and never staying in one place for more than a few minutes. It is because she is constantly moving that she is not getting enough hay -- this is both because she is not choosing to sit down for long enough, irrespective of Betsie, and because, at times, Betsie is not allowing her to sit still for long enough.
Betsie is not happy with the grid and is no longer coming out of the mini-hutch that is on her side -- as was the case when she first came to us. Ophelia is bewildered. She still doesn't settle but she frequently sits alongside or facing the bars, as though waiting for Betsie to come out. The time that I observed Betsie actually come out and approach the bars, Ophelia immediately ran away.
The problem of starting the critical care at the same time as separation is that the reason for any weight gain will no longer be clear-cut (ie we won't know if this would have happened anyway when no longer together.) However, I think we will be able to see if Ophelia begins to relax. But she keeps going to the bars ...
Ophelia is eating timothy hay which must be good for her teeth, and she has always eaten all nuggets and vegetables. Because there is nothing that is very obviously wrong with her, my inclination is not to pay the £300 (which we don't have) for all the investigations which could well throw up nothing (as the vet said). I would like to continue the separation beyond a night and today but won't that mean that the bond is irreparable? To me, Ophelia is really needing company, to the extent that she is seeking it out from a piggy whose dominance is detrimental to her. Betsie also needs her company, but my priority is Ophelia.
I know what I want to do, but perhaps it will be upsetting for Ophelia to lose Betsie.
Do you have any thoughts? I know it would be advisable to pay for all the investigations whatever, but it is clear when the weight loss began, and it is all so expensive. Perhaps Ophelia is pining for Bianca? I just don't know.